I need help

When me and my partner met he already had a 6 month old girl, who I fell in love with straight away, but when me and my partner fell pregnant with my baby boy it all changed, I said that nothing would change but chemically or physically it did! Now I always feel like I’m being told that I’m not making an effort with his little girl even though I look after both because he works…. I domt know what to do

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Dont be too hard on yourself, remember that your biological baby is still a baby, hes going to need a bit more attention right now & it’s also a new experience to you - you might love your partners little girl to the moon & back, but you didnt get to experience her as a new born; you never got those moments with her and you’re soaking up what you are getting with a new born now. There also is the chemical element of the fact that it is your biological baby, there will be a fundamental bond that wont be there with your partners little girl but it doesnt mean she isnt loved and cared for by you. Try to allot some time for 1 on 1 with her, so she feels like shes still getting your attention and you can still maintain your bond with her
Dont beat yourself up, this is all normal!

But me and his little girl feel fine together it’s my partner that keeps saying to me that I’m not being as affectionate with her or giving her enough attention when in reality he doesn’t see it because he come home from work then I go to work, so my argument is how could he possibly have a insight of it especially when we are both telling him it’s fine x

My sons 3 now so he’s not a new born it’s been going on from the start

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