Why do I want another kid?

I love my son but I never really want him around me. He's infuriating and jumpy and touchy (he's 3. I know it's normal behavior.) I can never spoil myself and have the nice stuff because I know it'll either get stained, broken, or lost. I have to worry about feeding him something he'll like and giving him time to play with him because he doesn't have any siblings and I feel like that's why he bugs and throws tantrums... He gets lonely 💔 and it hurts my heart that I haven't given him one yet. Whenever I think of giving him a sibling, it also fills me with joy. I didn't get a chance to experience the newborn stage, the first skin to skin contact, the breast feeding; Because he was in the hospital for 2 months after he was born. I think that it's like starting over and I had a very traumatic birth with him. I'm not ovulating. And I really want a little girl. My husband also wants another kid too. I really hate being stuck in this limbo

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Am I wrong for this?

My husband and I gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time since having daughter. I was pregnant so I feel like the weight I gained is different but anyways I’ve been really trying to watch what I eat and push myself to get up and move as much as possible. My daughter is very energetic so I’m pretty much chasing after her all day, I go on walks sometimes twice a day to the park and around the block before i put her to bed. I also clean our apartment and I do all this with littke to no sleep. My daughter wakes up multiple times a night and I have to help go back to sleep. I’m exhausted and so sleep deprived all the time making it really hard to get up in the morning so I have him do it. I say all this because I’m trying to encourage my husband to be more active, walk with us and eat better cause I’m genuinely worried about his health and his excuse is always “I’m tired” “I got up early with her and did errands I want to rest” I tell him that I’m exhausted too but I’m pushing myself cause I’m tired of being lazy and unhealthy and he just complains how he needs rest. He also is constantly overbearing and buying unhealthy stuff no matter how much I try to get him to stop. He’s just so stubborn and I hate seeing him like this. But on the other hand maybe I am asking too much or being rude about it?? Idk.

I'm lost

my boyfriend for the past 3 years has watched porn. I've told him time and time again that I consider it cheating, it feels the same if someone sent him nudes instead he's just searching it. recently he swore on our son he wasn't doing that again, but today I checked his history without him knowing and it goes back to Feburary of him doing this. I'm lost at this point. I don't know what else to do. I'm also a stay at home mom and don't have resources to leave. but I'm done being lied to. and I want to mention, if he wants something I give it to him. even if I'm tired or sick or whatever.

Is this a reasonable take or do you feel judged?

My opinion is that you can do whatever you want as a parent, given your circumstances and your goals. But for me, giving my baby / toddler screentime doesn’t match my personal goals as a parent. I don’t even have my phone on me when I’m with her - it’s never in my hand or my pocket. It’s either sitting on a shelf somewhere out of sight or it’s in my backpack. It definitely affects the way she interacts with me and others, and her ability to focus and not get side tracked.

Toys

What toys are you getting/giving your nearly 1 year olds? Really keen to get something that will encourage development in every area, but not something they can’t really use till 18 month+ because I can hold out till Christmas for that stuff. My son is incredibly active and very confident with it! Non stop moving

Text message draft to MIL

I hate confrontation but for my own mental health, I feel I need to send this to my MIL. Would appreciate your thoughts before I send?

Hi XXX, I really appreciate you looking after XXX on Wednesdays, but I wanted to mention something so that our relationship can remain positive moving forward.

A few comments about our parenting choices recently have left me feeling like I need to defend our decisions as parents. For example, comments about his diet like “babybels are the worst thing you can possibly give him” and “sweetcorn has no nutritional value”, comparisons around breastfeeding timelines, suggestions about offering him cool drinks when he’s asking for milk, and comments about car seats such as “he’ll have to forward face soon or he’ll feel sick / it won’t be good for his hips.”

We make our parenting decisions carefully based on current guidance and research, so I’d really appreciate it if you could avoid giving unsolicited advice or negative commentary about our choices going forward. Thank you.

Starting to come to the conclusion my daughter will be a only child, just like me 😭💔

Me and my partner have been together for almost 14 years. We waited so long to have kids, and then we went through infertility struggles for a while before finally having our daughter. I always dreamed of having a big family, at least 3 kids, and I truly thought we would build that life together.

But now, things feel so different. We barely get along anymore, and he has become such a miserable person. It feels like he’s constantly unhappy and always bringing up negative things , many of them situations that he created himself, but now he wants to play the victim in.

Before I had my daughter, I used to stay quiet and be more compliant just to keep the peace. But now that I’m older, and especially now that I’m a mother, I’m exhausted from pretending his behavior doesn’t affect me. It does affect me deeply, and I can’t keep carrying everything like this anymore.

What makes me even sadder is that I still want more children, but now I’m scared. Even if I were to go through IVF with a donor, part of me feels like he would make our lives miserable anyway. It hurts so much because the dream I had for my future and my family feels like it’s slipping away, and I feel overwhelmed and heartbroken.