Husband walks around in boxers at home Infront of daughters - 7 & 5 years old.

Please help, I have known my husband for 22 yrs & married for 17yrs, lived together for 21 years. He has ALWAYS not worn clothes in the house. He has always only had boxers on indoors. It wasn't such a problem when the kids were little but now I think it's highly inappropriate. He also comes home at 7:30pm, eats & goes to lie down. Many times, I've had to ask him to cover up his testicle on show because the kids want to go talk to him!!! He WILL not buy any PJs or home clothes for himself because he says he has other things to spend on & that he spends all his money on the kids. Im a SAHM. Please help me, am I wrong? I don't know what my daughters have seen and I dont know whether hes refusing to wear clothes because he wants them to see it all!!!

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It's incredibly gross that you are assuming he's just showing of his balls because he wants your kids to see them. Frankly if that is a concern you have, you need to divorce him. Also, teaching children that bodies are inherently sexual is why rape victims get blamed and never come forward. If you are gonna assume he's a predator, why are you still allowing your kids to be around him?

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This is a sensitive topic hence incognito. My daughter has told me my husband (her step dad) was looking at her when she was showering. I’ve spoken to him about it and he said he walked in accidentally and that was it, but my daughter is claiming there’s more to it. She says he lingered in the bathroom and he was just there staring when she turned around, which isn’t how he described the whole thing, he made it seem like he just accidentally walked in and left. I don’t know who to believe or where to go from here. My daughter is 14, she got a history of mental problems. My husband and her don’t have much of a relationship, they’ve never seen eye to eye but he’s never done anything which would suggest he sees her as anything other than his step child. This all came out last week and my daughter is currently staying at my mother’s house while I work this out with my husband, but I’m still at a loss on what to do here am feel my daughter is expecting something extreme to happen and I’m just not sure this is worth my marriage as it could all just be a misunderstanding.

Please be kind in the comments. I’m looking for advice from parents who dealt with something similar, not judgements or unhelpful remarks.

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Is this controlling?

My husband got upset over a TikTok I sent about how mums still mentally carry their kids even when they’re away from them. Instead of telling me directly, he acted distant all morning, and I later found out he’d been venting to ChatGPT about how annoying he found the video. He’s also previously said he doesn’t think married women should be out late because he’s “old fashioned,” although later he’ll say he was joking and tell me to enjoy myself. Would you see this as controlling/invalidating behaviour, or am I overreacting? How would this dynamic make you feel?

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Do you/could you leave the house without telling your partner your away?

Seen a video and it got me thinking 🤷 does it work both ways?

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I am absolutely and completely tired of this.
WWYD?

I have 3 children, all under 7 years old, my youngest child is almost 2 years old I have tried everything to prevent this area where we eat to be sanitary right? I have changed the dining area twice, I removed his high chair because I wasn’t getting help from my spouse cleaning it!! not the tray, he would carelessly be leaving the mess for me to clean everything up, he doesn’t wipe down the tables after meals so it remains dirty! I have placed a carpet that is easy to clean under the tables we have had in this dining area and so i can vacuum it however even with all these changes I’ve been trying to make everything easier on myself . my husband constantly continues to leave me to clean up the mess after the kids eat but he constantly asks me for sex! he will leave the mess, have sex with me and go to work like 30 minutes early the last straw was yesterday. I really don’t know what to do anymore, I cook because it’s healthier and easier to feed 3 kids with home cooked meals but my husband is not listening at all to what I am saying. I am tired of it. I need advice. I’m tired of being treated like a maid this is just 1 out of 10 other things I do in the home by myself. I told him off so bad last night and he didn’t come home after work.

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Omllll

Just a rant because I HATE cleaning up food after dinner it makes me feel sick but I don’t want him to feel like there’s something wrong with textures but omgggg it’s horrible 🤢😵‍💫

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