People judging my 2 year old in social settings

We have some friends that are new friends for my husband and I as a couple. They have an 11 month old who just started walking and I have a 25 month old whole is my favorite person in the world but also, is a 2 year old…. That speaks for itself.
We were invited over to their house for dinner and they were CONSTANTLY comparing their 11 month old to my toddler and Mai g comment alike their kid will never be like her and “she’s a lot”. I honestly don’t even think she was being bad. She was bored and trying to find things to play with and the more we tried to border control her, the less behaved she wanted to be.
Now I’m home and feel embarrassed. Like they totally made it clear they think she’s a bad kid. Which makes me defensive. Is this normal emotion?
Like of COURSE your 11 month old isn’t acting the way a 2 year old acts. They have no idea of independence yet. They also can’t talk, or run around. I’m so frustrated.

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Sounds like people that shouldn't be your friends.

Sometimes people like to have people around to crap on- don't let this happen to you. Especially letting your daughter watch and hear that kinda of language and conversation about her.

Children aren't bad.

I honestly wouldn't get together with them again if that's how they talk about a 2 year old. They will absolutely learn it for themselves when their kid turns 2. They are pointing out the differences to make themselves feel better while putting down someone else's parenting/child, which isn't the right thing to do.

Yeah no I wouldn’t do any more play dates w them - only girls nights w the mum and double dates as a couple but I’d look for another family that won’t compare and make you feel like a bad mum or make her feel like she’s a bad kid, coz she’s not. She’s just being 2. Have they not met any other 2yr olds? Apparently not.

They'll be humbled soon enough. First time parents always say if I have a kid they won't be doing xyz, until you actually have a kid and realize xyz actually isn't bad lol I wouldn't hang out with them anymore, the negativity isn't good for anyone. They'll find out on thier own the hard way.

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