How to be a supportive wife?
My husband is drinking today and we both know it's going to be a bad night. The bottle is almost gone and he's listening to country music which makes him think of his kids, both passed away and still alive. I've never lost a kid so don't get me wrong I'm not being cold-hearted I understand his feelings about that, however when it comes to the kids that he still has living he is not present in their lives or his grandkid's lives. I encourage him to see them but when I do he makes up excuses about money but I try to remind him that his presence is more important than presents. In order for things to change or for your kids to accept you more you do have to show up. You can't sit around drunk with your should haves, could haves, and would haves. You have to make the change now. It's as easy as picking up the phone or even as I tried to suggest taking a road trip to go see them. I haven't been the perfect parent myself, but I'm still in my kids' lives and I speak to them often and let them know that I care and love them. I'm 5 months pregnant and it would be nice if he tried to break the cycle now before babygirl got here, but I don't see that happening. I'm tired of the bottle and these drunken nights. I want to be supportive, but I can only support you if you're actually trying. He's not. He spends more time looking for women on dating apps, trying to have "fun", being angry and putting me down than he does doing positive things that can change his circumstances. Idk like I said I'm here, I'm trying to be supportive but he makes it hard.
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Girl there's no bro no supportive. You are doing as much as you can. This man just doesn't want to. I'm curious as to why you would have a child with a man who is not in the lives of children he already has? Why are you even still with him while he is openly disrespecting you, being on dating apps?
I'm not going to make excuses for him or myself. He's not in their lives bc the moms left or just don't want him to be for whatever reason. He was honest about all of that in the beginning and me getting pregnant wasn't planned. Now that I am I did want to give him the opportunity to at least be in hers if he showed me that he could lead and be a good dad. But I won't raise a child in a toxic environment and if he can't stop this drinking then we'll have to go
Ok. If you're ok with that then alright. But often men are ok with not being in the child's life. So many don't ever go to court and fight for their rights. Always makes me wonder if they truly want to be involved. But either way I hope you choose yourself and your baby. A toxic environment is not what yall need.
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