Spilled Milk
I need to vent. I pumped a good 8oz this morning for my 10-month olds bottle to take to the gym daycare with dad. I was transferring the milk to a fresh bottle when my husband walked by and bumped me accidentally causing about 2oz to spill. I gasped as it was shocking to be bumped and spill and my husband got upset because of my “reaction”. I did not get mad and simply cleaned it up but he says he was triggered from my reaction and it’s literally just “spilled milk”.
Am I being dramatic?? I feel I was very lenient, I could’ve been wayyy more upset but held my tongue as our baby was right there. Also, do you know the EFFORT it takes to pump?? Of course I’m upset that so much spilled!! I’m just so frustrated and sad.
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Noooo there's nothing more devastating than spilling pumped milk. He's being an ass.
You let him off easy. I spilled 5oz once and was inconsolable.
Spilling hard-earned milk is absolutely devastating. I think you really just can't understand it until you've been a dairy cow 🥲
Girl your reaction was tame. Once I was tired and putting my breastmilk in the fridge and dropped the bottle and it broke and 6 ozs was ruined. I literally cried. Like big choking sobs. I still think about it 3 years later
Side note. Hats off to you! I couldn't handle the stress of pumping for 10 months. I used to cry when I leaked at night because it was wasted milk. With the amount of time, effort, and stress involved with milk production, and the *hormones*, I'm amazed by the restraint of your reaction.
You're doing amazing ❤️
Thank you guys 😭 I’ve had a really hard morning after this and keep feeling the urge that it’s all too much. I’m definitely still triggered by him so am not acting on anything but the want to take my baby and leave is so strong right now 😭😭
I'm sorry, that's so hard. It doesn't sound like he appreciates your hard work which must make life so much harder. Are you able to sit down and talk with him about it?
I'm sorry you're having such a hard morning :( How upset did he get? I don't know anything about him, but getting upset over something as small as a gasp strikes me as odd. He could just be blissfully ignorant of the strain of pumping and think any reaction is an overreaction, but I'd think he would just be annoyed rather than upset.
I definitely think I can have a conversation with him once we’ve both calmed down. These little things tend to snowball for us but we usually can reconnect and solve it same day. That being said, it happens at least 1-2x a day lately and it just feels exhausting. He grew up with a reactive narcissistic mom (who we live near and see frequently, not helpful!) who’s emotions he had to navigate and I grew up in a religious cult who had to tamper emotions a lot. We’ve both been in therapy on and off but maybe it’s time to do couples therapy again…
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