Disappointed.

I found out my husband was going on dating apps while traveling for work. He said he gets bored and has a bruised ego due to many of his own demons. Says he was never planning to do anything but this hurts me to my core.
This is a man that I’ve been with for over 10 years after being in an emotionally abusive relationship.
It feels like everything has been a lie and I truly don’t know if I can get over it. He swore that nothing ever happened and in the words he used, I do believe this to be true.
I just can’t help but feel there is something genuinely wrong with men. They’re impulsive, egotistical, uneducated, undeserving, unhelpful. I’ve recently learned that almost all of the older men in my life have cheated on their wife’s and they all stayed. I know life will be hard as a single mom but it’s on my mind now.
Advice not needed, just needed to vent.
Sad. Hurt. Disappointed. Feeling hopeless.

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Am I wrong?

My partner did something when I was 6 weeks postpartum and really unwell that caused me to have trust issues and a lot of resentment! He’s apologised but the apology is always followed with “but I can’t take it back I wish I could” he’s never done anything to actually make it up to me or make me feel like he feels bad for what he done. It feels like he cares more that he got caught out and I now treat him differently. I keep bringing it up even though it’s been months and when I do he just goes quiet or tells me I’m wrong for how I treat him, which makes me more angry! I don’t feel like I can be a single mum when my baby’s this young because I don’t have any support system other than him but I also don’t think I can be happy or at peace being with him like this.

Should I return his father's day gift?

So, first of all, I did buy him a Father's Day gift as I normally do every year. I usually also get the kids to make him a cute card. However, this past Mother's Day, I got nothing. We went to great wolf lodge which I planned and paid for, but it was his idea since his friend and their family were going too. (He did end up giving me half the money for it after the fact) While we were there, he kept going out for smoke breaks, leaving me to tend to our 3 kids on my own so I never got a break. He also told me that they were selling mothers Day bouquets in the lobby, but he didn't feel like getting in line for them. I also feel like since then, he's been annoying me a lot and just generally not helping out around the house or with the kids. I'm kinda feeling unappreciated and that he doesn't deserve anything.

Baby Daddy in Question…

I thought he was over feeling frustrated with our little guy. You can’t only like him when he’s cute and smiling. There come challenges too like the cries and the sleepless nights. Parenting isn’t an easy ride once you step into it.
Anyone else’s significant other hate on your little one because the say they’re “over tired” or “frustrated when he cries” or “didn’t expect this to be what parenting was about”? He scared me in the first weeks after coming home from the hospital because of what he said. That he hated our boy. He hated his cries and didn’t know how to help him. He felt like a shitty dad. Now tells me he still has moments where he doesn’t like him at all and resents him if it’s a rough night and has to look at him the next morning when he’s chill to feel better and forgive him. He says he loves him just doesn’t always like him.
He claims he’ll like him more once he’s older and out of the baby phase but I’m just not sure because I know toddler stage will be even more demanding and hard.

Starting real foods

My baby is around 4 months old so I want to start researching how to introduce foods. We want to be giving our baby lots of iron and things like bone marrow, not rice cereals. Are there any good resources to go off of? Thank you!

If your kids are not spoiled, please comment!!!

I’m having a little bit of trouble with a spoiled kid! I feel like we don’t spoil him, but he acts very entitled he’s only four! And I know he’s still learning, but I’m scared! 😅😂 if you’re comfortable answering a couple questions about your parenting style, I would really appreciate it!

For Christmas/ birthdays, do you go huge? In a regular month how many toys, snacks, fast food, etc. are you buying your kids? How much TV is allowed? How often do you let them be bored?

Any tips would be appreciated! I’m just curious if there’s something I’m doing too much of!

My husband has some sort of cuck fantasy

When I was in my 20’s I will admit that I was a hoe. I’ve had threesomes with 2 men and I’ve had threesomes with other couples. I was always a third I never had a threesome with a man I was in a relationship with.

Anyway my husband knows I’ve had threesomes before but I feel like now that I’m almost 40 and married it’s really no reason to participate in threesomes. My husband has been telling me this fantasy he has of me with another man. He wants to watch me get fucked while I suck on him then after just watch the man have his way with me. I’ve done it before but I guess with it coming from my husband I felt uneasy about it idk why. I just feel like once you cross that line you can’t go back and he’s the type to throw something in your face I just want to save to drama but he keeps talking about it. We’ve tried me sitting on a dildo while sucking him but I guess it didn’t give him the same thrill