Am I a bi*** to my mother in law

A little background im a ftm and I live with my man and his family ever since the baby was born there’s been things that my mother in law has been doing that irritates me or upset me we’ve talked to her so I feel like she kind of been controlling the things she does but lately she’s doing something new everytime I try to do something fun with my baby for just giggles she’ll take that moment for herself or make it her own moment example 1: I put a diaper on my babies head and brought her to my mom in law to show her the minute me and my man left the room she takes a picture and sends it to the gc as if she’s the one who did it before I could (not to much upset about that part) and she immediately takes off the diaper and starts putting headbands on her and coming to the room saying stuff like oh she looks prettier now and to make sure to bring the headbands back to her example 2: I did her hair and made a little Mohawk and went to show her again I leave come back and she twisting her hair making little devil horns and it upset me cuz I just did her her to make it all cute and she just ruins it and it’s not the first time she played in her hair after I do it and it’s makes me feel like a bi*** just getting upset at these little things I try to just let them slide and let her be a grandma but I noticed it became a pattern at the things she does and if we talk to her about it she gets petty about it and it makes me feel so mean but I can’t help but get upset I’m thinking about just not saying anything anymore cuz I feel like I’m dtm

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Am I in the wrong?

Ok so it’s 1:42 pm and I tell my boyfriend I’m hungry and he responds with “your always hungry” mind you i have not eaten anything today. Which I tell him he responds with “I haven’t either and I’m not hungry and I’m bigger then you” mind you I’m exclusively breastfeeding his baby, I’m losing weight all the time due it plus not eating because of this shit he pulls. He also doesn’t want to ever go out to eat which I get but also doesn’t want buy groceries either. It’s not like I ask him to take me to some expensive restaurant I just wanted something cheap or a sandwich. Tired of the controlling and not having any say of the money even tho we both work together to make the money he controls all of it.

Am I wrong for wanting this 1 day still even now and should I let it go and get over it?

My youngest is 17 weeks and was prem and then and I gave birth via emergency c section alone. Dispite the in laws sitting with the other children and travelling a distance to be with them all weekend he chose to have fish n chips with them and relax a few hours before coming to see me and baby, tea breaks n fag breaks too no rushing. I was seperated from baby so my friend went on as birthing partner after to be with baby until I was well enough as I aspirated and nearly died and hemorrhaged which doctors called to tell him. He then briefly visited once and I was in for 3 days n he had a whole 2 sitters n parents who do everything. I got out of hospital very unwell, sore n struggling more than ever before and i asked for one day of being in the bedroom with baby for one day uninterrupted unless he wanted to make me a cuppa and a sandwich but for him to watch the kids n do housework n keep on top of things for one day so I could put the tele on, pig put on snacks n cuddle baby for a day. He refused its been 4 months n any time I ask for this one day I cant have it. Then a family event come up and its a drive of a few hours so I asked he takes the others as his family take over n would help anyway n he wouldnt do anything and I take this day with the baby. He freaked out..how will that look to them.. I cant cope with all the other kids on my own.. I want u there. May I add my bleeding was irregular so this day I just came on so heavily I was wearing 4 pads n soaking through by each hour. He also missed mothers day and my birthday this year and keeps starting arguments over petty things. I feel like booking me and baby in at a hotel just to have that time for like 24 hours. He had no issues last minute mid crazy busy time dinner, baths, medicines n housework n cleaning n laundry time 3 days in a row saying his popping out for a motorbike ride 3:30pm until 9/10pm then come back n complained i didnt out effort into dinner. Is it just expected that the woman cant have time? I also booked a pedicure (first one in 2 years) home visit one and asked him to be out n take the toddler he out the toddler to bed screaming 5 mins after the lady arrived n then went the opposite end n took a nap in the bedroom (one level home) he just ignored her so I couldnt get 1 hour either. He thinks theres nothing wrong with what I done because its life that I dont get pamper time as apparently he doesnt (does) 2 hour showers n 1 hour poops a day like give me strength.

Am I wrong for still craving that one day of peace and rest just one day? Is it too late and should I let it all go n get over it now?

Having your babies too close together

I’m a 39 year-old stay at home mom. I didn’t have my first baby until 37 and we really wanted him to have a sibling. So we had a second baby when I was 38. I love both my babies so so much. But now I just feel like a shit, mom

My two year-old isn’t speaking yet. And we’re looking into speech therapy. I feel like I have no time to actually play with my children. I’m always just cleaning feeding changing and cleaning some more. I don’t feel like I have the time to sit and teach and play.

people like to say things like the dishes can wait. But the dishes can’t wait. I need to use them to make the next meal. I need my house to be safe and sanitary. My house is trashed. My husband refuses to help. I feel like I’m missing out on so much.

I can’t regret having my second child so close because I love him so much. But I do regret that there’s not more time to teach my two-year-old. That there’s not more time to snuggle my nine month old.

Every single day is just survival mode. I know things will get easier, but I also don’t wanna miss this magical time with my kids.

There are some easier days. But most days are still really hard. And I just cry because I don’t feel like my kids and I are enjoying each other.

Uk mums - when an incident happens at nursery and your child tell you about it but nursery never mentioned anything, do you do anything about it?

My LG 3 has been at nursey since January. She’s told me a few times since January that someone has hit her or something along those lines! I always asked her what happened and what did she do about it and she always says “I told my teacher and my teacher told them not to do that”. Today she told me a child smacked her across the face and when I asked her what happened and what did she do about it? She said she was talking to her friend and another child came and smacked her in the face. Then she said she went and told her teacher Miss L and Miss L told the child to apologise and the child did apologise.
My issue is, should nursery be at least mentioning something happened even though they dealt with it? Just so you’re aware as a parent. I’m not expecting them to give me the child’s name but just a basic, “oh just to let you know, this happened today but we dealt with it and everything is fine”.
What do you do in these situations?

Is petty to divorce because husband disrespected over his sister and for not taking me out on Mother’s Day but taking his mom out

Me and sister in law use to be friends really good friends but she always had a thing with communicating I would call her and talk about myself and give her plenty openings to talk about her or she would call me listen to me talk about myself one day I was like yeah this is weird because she would claim we’re besties and I said nahh we’re not we’re good friends but anyways I would ask her about life she would say oh nothing and people would tell me about her life and during postpartum she did the same thing and barley called but I told my husband hey ur sister doesn’t communicate and it really hurt my feelings he started to dog me and talk about how I’m self absorbed his sister is a good person and I’m just selfish and I’m an adult I need to get over and stop expecting the world to revolve around me

Oh on top of that this past Mother’s Day his mother is staying with us for a while and they went out on Mother’s Day left early
Morning came back late didn’t invite me out and did the same for Eid and now honestly I just want to divorce him because ew I rather be single he says I’m crazy and Eid was a mistake Mother’s Day he was a jerk

Baby constantly feeding

My baby is just under 3 weeks old and it feels like he’s constantly wanting to be fed. He’ll do his hunger cues (sticking tongue out, hands to face, sucking motion with his mouth) almost immediately after feeding - like within 10 mins. He can feed for 40mins - 1hr30 at a time like constantly sucking, where he might settle for an hour, but the shorter 15-20min feeds where he takes himself off the boob or falls asleep, he will start his hunger cues/start screaming within 10 mins.

He’s doing lots of wees and poos- about 6 -8 dirty nappies a day and even more heavy wees so I don’t think he’s actually hungry?

I’m so overwhelmed as to what to do because I just can’t put him down and my nipples are so sore.