SAHM and an introvert

I've never been one to have loads of friends, but I was always quite close to work colleagues so I guess socialising at work filled the gap quite nicely as I enjoyed time to myself on weekends, and meeting up with friends here and there.

But, now I'm a SAHM I guess there's more time to fill (weekdays as well as weekends) and to be honest it's starting to get quite depressing. (For context my son is 15 months and I'm 13 weeks pregnant so won't be returning to work any time soon).

We go to one class a week, and I'd like to do more but I don't have much money. Anyone else in this situation or can anyone offer some words of advice?💗

in our community

If someone got pregnant and after taking the test the man said he didn't want to have the baby but you continued the pregnancy

From the day forward he still had sex with you but brought nothing for the child, you went into labour and he didn't attend the birth, the baby is born and still hasn't come to see you who is at fault? Should men have a choice in keeping a child? Should she stop complaining because she made the choice to have the child? Are both at fault and why?
PS you was not in a relationship you was just sleeping together then you fell pregnant

Sexual or not?

Growing up when my mum would
Go out with her mates she would say she was going out to play… I now say to my friends ‘do you wanna come out to play’… i said It to
My 2 close guy mates and they’ve told me that people say that in a sexual manor ?! That’s not how I mean it and no one has ever said anything to me but them 🫪

Lonely

Feeling very lonely today. My daughter is 20 months old and I still don’t really have any mum friends. We did the nct classes hoping I’d make at least 1 good friend and don’t get me wrong they’re all lovely but I never really became close with any of them.

Just really feeling low about being on my own all the time

Child support (please no judging)

I’m currently pregnant with my first baby off of a “one night stand” with someone I had met years ago yet only recently did we reconnect and sleep together for the first time.

After that ONE night, we continued to speak and see eachother at the gym and such but a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant.

After telling him, he immediately asked me to get rid of it and said he didn’t want to be involved.

Personally (no shame to others at all), I don’t agree with abortions and could never put myself through one. so I said I’m keeping it.

I did make it very clear to him that my decision wasn’t changing and I in no way am expecting him to step up and be a father. I even said he doesn’t need to be involved AT ALL. I am not one to trap someone in a situation they don’t want to be in, and I’m not one to blame him for this either or hold him accountable.

This is why I’m struggling, I have multiple people telling me I should claim child support off of him regardless. Personally, I don’t want to as he did ask me to get rid of it and I was the one who said no. yes, it’s both of us that created this situation.. but I’m the reason the situation still exists. which is why I don’t think it’s fair for me to make him pay.

We haven’t spoken ONCE since the week I found out (3-4 months ago)

What would you do???

Telling work

I am 15 weeks and I want to tell work because I am hoping they will go a bit easier on me. I work in finance and it can be quite hectic at the best of times. Has anyone experienced their work being more lenient after telling them? I was advised that I should wait til 20 weeks but the work is starting to pile up.

Anyone else feel a bit stuck in a rut?

I'm struggling at the moment with the juggle of naps, meals, bottles, & keeping my twins entertained. I feel like I struggle to leave the house between all of this and when I do I'm at a bit of a loss of where to go. I feel like the babies are no longer happy just sitting in their pram and doing activities like shopping etc. They just want to be out crawling and exploring, but aren't big enough for things like soft play etc yet. Is it just me?! What am I missing? 🫠