Potty training

My son is 11 month old soon to be 1 in 15 days and I have a baby on the way in 2 months. I really want to start potty training my son so that when the new baby comes there isn’t so many nappy changes or any delay in potty training my son later on. My son can crawl and walk holding onto furniture and hands but he’s not confident walking on his own yet. He has only said mama and dada no other actual words. Because of this I’m not sure whether to go through with potty training him. My partner(his dad) said it’s too soon and to wait till he’s walking and talking but I just want to get it over with as I know I’m going to be watching both babies when the new one is born. My partner works a lot and when he’s not working he’s not exactly around much to do anything with his son. (I’m getting frustrated about it but he just pushes it to the side and says not this again so we don’t communicate on it anymore) since out son has been born he’s spent about 2 hours most with him a day and that’s not a consistent 2 hours that’s in and out. I’m conflicted whether to listen to him and wait or just potty training our son. Any advice.

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I would wait training your son personally. Also your partner should be spending consistent time with his son.

You can potty train a child that young to a certain extent but I don't think it's going to make your life any easier with the new baby, he certainly wouldn't be trained within a week, you'll need to put in a lot of time and basically just keep taking him to the toilet because he's unlikely to just take himself off and deal with it, and he'd be likely to have a regression when baby arrives and you'd need to deal with that. I actually think it would be a lot easier to just have two sets of nappies to change than start potty training right now. I actually miss nappies 😂 they were so simple really

I don’t think this is a realistic ask of such a young baby to be totally honest. So young it’ll be far more work than nappies as it’s not going to be a quick process if you do potty train him he’s going to need a lot of help for a long time and his understanding of the concept that young will be very limited. You’re also likely to have lots of accidents so lots of extra washing and changing etc.

I tried to potty train my first before my second baby came and even at just over 2 he just wasn’t ready x

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