Am I allowed to be annoyed
Please tell me I'm allowed to be upset that my mum refuses to do my toddlers nappy when she's watching him? When I was pregnant I initially thought my mum could watch him maybe a day or two a week so I could work part time. She's proved she absolutely cannot. She can't even manage to change his nappy. I admit he's very wriggly and she says I would just lie there when I was his age. She can't cope with home. He's 2 in August.
It means I can only leave him with her for an hour or two tops and I have to leave whatever I'm doing and come home and change him if he poops....
He was left in a soiled nappy for an hour today because i was in a bank appointment and then had to run to the grocery store....he now is red and sore.
I don't know what else to do! Sometimes I need to go to an appointment....i have no other options
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Sorry you are going through this, sounds super stressful!
I'd say you have a couple of options. One, you help her learn how to change him, show her any tricks, even let her give him a phone to watch something while she is cleaning him up. Two, you find childcare elsewhere.
Leaving him in soiles nappies is not an option as I am sure you'd agree. In my view if someone is unable to change a nappy, they are incapable of looking after my child. Either they learn, or they are no longer trusted to do it.
If it was me I wouldn't be annoyed, if my mum or MIL wouldn't be able to take care of my daughter for an hour or to change her nappy it can be a bummer but she's my daughter. She's my responsibility, not theirs.
You could start potty training or reading books to help that process I read oh crap and used her method worked well for us
I agree with Villy above. Another thing to remember is it's more difficult for them to watch children now than they remember (times have changed, they are older, etc.) - whether or not they want to admit it. We've gone through some similar things with my MIL because thought watching my son would be easier than it is. And we've ended up hiring a PT Nanny to help my MIL watch him...
Also, if you put aquaphor (the plain basic stuff they sell in a big jar) on a Dry bum when you change his nappy, then it can help ward off diaper rash if he sits in a wet nappy at your mom's for a bit. I know that's not ideal, but it could help. We went through a phase where my LO was Super sensitive and would have a rash regularly after peeing during a nap. Using the aquaphor helped (more than any diaper rash cream we tried) to alleviate existing rash and prevent future rashes. But don't use it with cloth diapers (only disposable).
Feel free to message me also and I can provide more info if you want
Honestly I would be annoyed. It sounds a little like weaponized incompetence.
I would be annoyed BUT only if they offered to watch my child. This means feeding my child the food I provided and yeah, changing their diaper or making sure they go to the potty.
To leave a child in a spiled diaper for an HOUR...because you refused to clean them is not acceptable...unless she has a health issue like arthritis or carpal tunnel or something thay would affect her ability to do this and that means no i would have never left her alone to care fornmy child.
Calmoseptine is best for sore/rashes on the bum
Its behind the counter but if you ask for it they will sell it to you you dont need a prescription
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