Emotionally unintelligent men

How do you stay married to them?

We didn’t start this way I swear.

How do you cope in the marriage? Do you find somewhere else to confide in emotionally?

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What do you mean? Like in the sense of unable to get deep? Or unable to express what he feels or like unable to read how your feeling?

My husband’s got very low emotional intelligence, so it can be very frustrating at times however he has made a lot of improvements from when we first met compared to now. We’ve been together for 6 years. One day I asked him, “how come he’s very soft with me?” and he said, because he will lose me if he doesn’t try. That made me realised that a man who truly loves you and wants to be with you will put in the effort to try be who you need them to be.

There are things he can never understand tho, so I have friends to speak with regarding topics my husband wouldn’t understand. Not necessarily live a separate life from your husband, but have certain people around you who will understand when your husband doesn’t.

If you didn't start this way then there's a chance of repair (although of course, it will never return to honeymoon butterflies). Open up to him about what you would hope couples therapy would do for you as a couple and leave it on the table for him to consider without pressure. Maybe you won't even need the therapy if he takes some time to reflect and respond

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Pls help

I’m 32 weeks pregnant and don’t have a high sex drive at all but me and my bf still have sex when he ask (if not a handjob) recently I’ve heard him pleasuring himself in the shower and have seen him doing it on accident…I smell my lotion on him (what he uses for lube) I’ve confronted him about it telling him I felt uncomfortable and I felt like I wasn’t pleasing him enough but he lies about it until I get the truth out of him but still continues to do it I could understand if we didn’t have sex but we do and he does this everytime he’s in the shower or even bathroom….he also says he’s looking at our sex tapes that we did in the past but deep down I don’t believe that’s what he’s looking at. Please give advice or help me 🥹

The loneliness of being the only mum in the group

Does anyone else feel like becoming a mum has made you an outsider in your own friend group?

I love my friends, but I’m the only mum among them. Lately it’s been quietly exhausting, I’m always the one who has to ask for the plan to change. “Can we meet somewhere a bit closer? Or even in the middle? Can we meet earlier because I can’t do dinners right now? Can we meet somewhere I can take the baby?” Every single time, it falls on me to raise it, because no one else has to think about it. While I understand that it’s hard to think about someone’s circumstances when you haven’t experienced them, is it wrong for me to expect a little more consideration?

This weekend it was a suggested meet up over an hour and twenty minutes away. Before my daughter, I wouldn’t have batted an eye at, but now I have to think about how fast I can get back if she needs me. I just sat there wondering, am I overreacting or have I just become an afterthought?

The loneliness of being the only mum in a group is so specific and so hard to explain, especially to my friends who are in completely different chapter of their lives. You’re surrounded by people who love you, and still feel completely unseen.

Anyone else navigating this?

Paternity

I had two partners and my baby father believes it’s not his baby. I had protected sex with the one on the 4th and the 16th. And unprotected sex with the second one on the 11th but he swears he “pulled out”. I know he’s the dad because what??? But he’s making me doubt it. And I tested positive on the 27th. Can you guys just tell me I’m not crazy or wrong😂

I hope this doesn’t sound as dumb as I think

I’m starting to think the reason I don’t have any friends or a community is just because people are jealous. I know this sounds really stuck up and kind of air headed but I really think this could be it. Most people don’t show me any warmth it feels like even if I’m trying to be friendly and join a conversation they all just stare at me and look me up and down and look at each other like I’m making them uncomfortable, of course this makes me uncomfortable so I just walk away. And I can hear them laughing as soon as I do. This used to really get to me and hurt my feelings mainly because it made no sense. I’m not saying I’m beautiful by any means but I think people just might see things that they want and weirdly exclude me from things because of it. Does anyone else have this experience? like you know you’re not mean, and youre socially competent, but still feel like a freak that doesn’t belong