I’m starting to think the reason I don’t have any friends or a community is just because people are jealous. I know this sounds really stuck up and kind of air headed but I really think this could be it. Most people don’t show me any warmth it feels like even if I’m trying to be friendly and join a conversation they all just stare at me and look me up and down and look at each other like I’m making them uncomfortable, of course this makes me uncomfortable so I just walk away. And I can hear them laughing as soon as I do. This used to really get to me and hurt my feelings mainly because it made no sense. I’m not saying I’m beautiful by any means but I think people just might see things that they want and weirdly exclude me from things because of it. Does anyone else have this experience? like you know you’re not mean, and youre socially competent, but still feel like a freak that doesn’t belong
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I feel like this sometimes!!

I feel the same way!! It IS jealousy girl. Its so weird too like I know im a good person, im friendly and super genuine but I still get treated as if I dont belong or im a freak in peoples eyes. Its got to be jealousy!! It makes sense especially if they don't know you at all.🤷🏼♀️
I used to let it get to me too but Ive gotten over it. If someone doesn't want to get to know me and be my friend, it's their loss cause they are for sure missing out.

same girl same. there are women who I am nice to at hair cut places, the store register, the pre school even our HOA office places like that and I’m nice and warm and welcoming and they are so closed off to ME but to MY HUSBAND? they go giggling and smiling and it makes me sick 😑
it is REAL

I definitely do relate to the last part.

It’s definitely jealousy at first I was telling myself it wasn’t and giving it the benefit of the doubt. You know you never want to think negatively of something’s. As life progressed though? And then I got pregnant. Oh yea it’s definitely jealousy. From both strangers and family. It be the vibes when you come around the certain looks you catch on people faces when you aren’t looking. Whole time when you are talking to them you genuinely be excited to have a conversation and then you realize that’s not what it is and have to call back your energy and draw back. It’s sucks because I used to be convinced that I was introverted and I’m really not I’m just so aware of everyone and their vibes towards me. I’ve grown used to it but I would be lying if I said it didn’t hurt my feelings I genuinely yearn for genuine friendships and closeness where I don’t have to step back because I felt a weird vibe or something. It is what it is I guess. I hope all us girls find our friendships💕