So when I was about 2 months pregnant I found texts on my partners tablet that is connected to his phone from a stripper. (They did not meet up I called him before the time) It had a location meet up time and place. The strip club is down the road from his work and my job at the time. He had shut off his phone for what he claimed to be a work meeting. When I got home from work I decided to check his tablet. I had a really bad feeling and the feeling was right. I called him crying and upset he claimed and still does that it wasn’t him. But the hotel was booked under his name and card, and it all just links back to him. We had broken up over the phone and I said I was going to get an abortion (I couldn’t afford the baby alone and had no where to go) he told me to go for it. We ended up fixing things and we kept our baby girl she is now almost 4 months old.
But I can’t get it out of my brain. His card has been hacked before and I know someone who would be more than willing to try and break us up because he wanted to date me. But texting the stripper myself she said he only got a lap dance but refused to identify if the picture was him. Every time I asked and sent the photo of him she would dodge the question which makes me wonder if his number was being used on Google texts by this guy that has tried to break us up in the past.
I know I have chosen to stay with him even with the knowledge it was more than likely him and he just won’t admit it but part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt because anytime I have ever caught him doing something (usually just looking at girls on Instagram) he has admitted it. He even got rid of all his social media because he realized he had a problem and it wasn’t fair to me. That his work schedule is what keeps him away from home and makes him too tired to do anything when he gets home. We had broken up for about a month or two almost 2 years ago at this point and we were still living together but tried dating others but realized that we didn’t want to split and then I became pregnant the spring we got back together.
Another point I’d like to make is he has NEVER had an interest in strip clubs but his boss and coworkers talk about going all the time and I know he has had to go to a few places he didn’t want to because that’s where his boss decided the work meeting would be. Which is really annoying because he has celiac disease so he would end up just sitting there while everyone else ate.
I don’t plan on leaving him and we are getting married next month but how if you were me would you get yourself to just move on from it. I’m a SAHM so I can’t just work to forget about it I’m at home and everything just goes to my head now.
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I understand that you plan on staying which is totally understandable but from experience you will never be able to move on it will always bother you especially bc he didn’t admit it when you saw the proof. Now everything he does you will unfortunately question and it will all come to a head at some point. Youll just have to look past it if you’re going to stay.

Ok so theres multiple things that catch my attention
1 the while stripper situation
2 you’ve caught him looking at other ppl and by the sounds of it, it was more than once.
3. Him not wanting to do anything would concern me ( realistically he can be tired yes) But how consistently are yall doing stuff together intimate wise or affectionately? Could it be possible that he’s already cheating?
Its excuses after excuses for bad behavior that you keep validating and taking. Why are you marrying this man fr!
If he dont like being in those situations because of (work) he should just switch jobs. You stated that he’s never really liked stuff like that before. But people can be influenced and change by who they’re surrounded with.
I honestly think he’s just gonna keep consistently doing a bunch of stuff that makes you uncomfortable regardless of how you feel. Because you’ve already showed him that you’re gonna put up with it.

Seek clarification from him, tell him you want the truth no matter how dissapointing. If you do forgive and he shows remorse, then wipe off the slate. If you cannot do that, there is no point staying and hurting yourself with the past