Boy moms do you feel this way?
I have only boys. The early years it was mainly me that did everything as they need mama a lot through the newborn toddler stage etc. it’s still mainly me but the past year I have noticed a big change now they are growing older and more mature and more male influenced.
Their dad is a lot more physically involved now as they’re getting older boys and doing a lot of boy stuff together. I spend 99% of my time being more like a ‘boy’ myself as I’m always doing boy stuff with the kids and generally as a family, from what shows/movies we watch, to days out, activities and sports it’s all boy related.
I already feel lonely as I don’t have friends etc and my kids are my world. When they’re having boy time with their dad only and I’m not involved I feel really lonely and upset and I’m feeling sad that this will only become worse. For example, they’re currently watching a tv show (boy stuff) and I always sit and watch with them (that way I’m still involved and bonding) but my husband asked me for some space so they can have boy time…
It’s hit me hard now I’m feeling sad, I don’t have ‘girl time’ because I don’t have daughters, I don’t have friends and my mom/sisters I see only here and there.
Do you boy moms feel this way? Did you notice a shift?
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Hey, first of all im sorry you feel like this. Have you talked to your husbanz? Like its ok for him to have some activity with them alone, but you guys should stop using the boys term so much. Use dad time and mom time. Take them out to eat something they like as mom time, of to the arcade, something like this that could be your thing. But definitely stop using the gender term so much, it will also be good for them to not get caught in to this “boys only” club sorta thing. And have the conversation with your husband, its really not nice to do this like this, like: you dont belong
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I have a boy and we do absolutely never qualify things/activities/toys as BOY stuff. My boy is free to do everything he wants to do and he doesn't need to prove he is a male. My partner does lots of things with him (so do I). That includes teaching him how to cook, how to clean and be a useful human being.
I would definitely go by stopping to say "boy stuff" and take activities to be shared and enjoyed all together
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