Holiday with 4 months old

We go away next week with a then 4 month old, what are the essentials to take and any advice?
We are going to Tunisia.

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Nursery funding question

I have a 2yo currently at nursery and we’ve got the 30hours working parents hours and in August my youngest will start who will also get the 30 hours. I also use the tax free childcare.
However, my partner is starting university full time and has been told student finance can help with up to 85% of nursery fees, how does this work if I’m working and have the childcare etc in my name? Or are we best to just keep it how it is? Has anyone been in this situation before? It’s confusing enough without confusing it more 😵‍💫😅

Another mum saying no to your child

I was at a small party and was standing next to another mum with her 3 year old. She told my child not to have a toy. I said it was fine and was annoyed with her. I was paying full attention to my child. Would you be annoyed? My toddler is 2.5 and they were in-between being shown something. To keep him contained then I let him have the toy.

Childcare funded hours

Can someone please help break this down to me 🫠 qualified for the funded hours spread out so roughly 22 per week. Also can have tax-free childcare. But how does it work? He starts in September and I don’t really find the nursery helpful at all 😬 if anyone could just give an example of what it looks like for them would be great!! (My brain doesn’t seem to want to work haha)

Make me feel less anxious 😅

So I’m 7 Months PP, my husband & I just bought our first home & paid off all of my other debt. We are in a very good place in our relationship & went away a few weeks ago… & well on thing lead to another and he didn’t pull out (I’m on the patch for context but we don’t use protection). We’ve had a cold for the last week & I’ve been feeling super sick to my stomach but my husband says he is to.

I did take a test (period is due next week) & it was negative but I know it would be too early (my husband was bugging me 😂). He makes alot of “jokes” but not jokes about me being a stay at home mom, it’s something we both want. However ‘stay at home’ would mean work 2 nights a week & every other Saturday most likely (we both feel i should never completely not work. We have been chatting recently about if I am pregnant & what that would look like (not working until both kids are in school)

WELL. We are both very anxious about the possibility of me being pregnant, I feel like it’s unlikely because we’ve struggled with fertility issues in the past but like it only takes one time 😅.

For context my husband & I are open to the idea of another baby, we both would prefer a 3-4 year age gap & also would love to have another when I would actually have enough hours for maternity leave again. My work is very accommodating so I’m not concerned about that. I guess just any advice or well wishes would help 🤍 thank you

I'm really struggling 🥹

I feel so ungrateful. I've wanted my baby for so long. He's my quadruple rainbow 🌈. I have an 11 year old but I don't remember things ever being like this with him.
My 7 month old has recently started crying and screaming over everything. Hungry Screams. Tired Screams. In the pram Screams. He used to sleep in good stretches and now he wakes up every few hours screaming. There's been days I've tried calpol when it's been really bad because I can only assume it's pain. But it doesn't make a difference. I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep and the constant headaches from his crying. My Husband is amazing but we're both struggling at this point. I'm just not enjoying being his Mum anymore 😭😭

HELP with boundaries from grandparents!!

Hey guys, I could really use some advice. My mum has done so much for me and my husband since our first baby was born. I’m an only child, and she’s been incredibly generous – she’s bought our little boy so many things, helped us financially, and during those first three months she was coming over almost every day or every other day. At the beginning, I genuinely needed and appreciated the help. She’d help with the housework or have my baby boy so I could catch up on some sleep.

Now that we’ve settled into more of a routine, I don’t need as much help as I did before. I’ve realised that I really enjoy the couple of hours I get to spend with just me and my baby boy while my husband is working from home and then out at his evening job. I want to enjoy that one-on-one time with him and build our own little routine as a family.

The difficult part is that my mum is also going through a lot at the moment. Her husband (not my dad) has an incurable brain tumour, so I know having us and her grandson around brings her comfort and happiness. Because of that, I feel even more guilty about wanting a bit more space and independence.

I don’t know how to tell her without upsetting her. I know everything she’s done has come from a place of love, and I’m so grateful for all of her support. But I can also see that my husband is starting to get a bit frustrated with how often she comes round. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you set boundaries kindly without hurting your mum’s feelings?