People judging about daycare piss me off

(Sorry that it's so long and sorry about spelling errors.I use voice a text because of my dyslexia)So today, I accidentally got snooty in a store with a random man. Because he decided to say daycare already about my 5 month old. Son and I just replied, well. I can't stay home. I would, if I could. I said it as polite as I could. But also, shut it down, I also have the distant cousin of mine, who likes to try and debate me about daycare keep in mind. Both of them are men. My cousin has no children and has never been married. Technically, my in loss can watch him. But I have to be at my placement by 830 and I'm done at 330 and I still have to get schoolwork done. Also if I didn't get him on a wait list anytime soon. The likelihood of him having childcare for when he's a toddler or preschooler, was slim to none. If I didn't put him on the wait list when I did and technically I did it late. I just got lucky that a daycare reached out to me. So quickly.

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Nursery funding question

I have a 2yo currently at nursery and we’ve got the 30hours working parents hours and in August my youngest will start who will also get the 30 hours. I also use the tax free childcare.
However, my partner is starting university full time and has been told student finance can help with up to 85% of nursery fees, how does this work if I’m working and have the childcare etc in my name? Or are we best to just keep it how it is? Has anyone been in this situation before? It’s confusing enough without confusing it more 😵‍💫😅

Childcare funded hours

Can someone please help break this down to me 🫠 qualified for the funded hours spread out so roughly 22 per week. Also can have tax-free childcare. But how does it work? He starts in September and I don’t really find the nursery helpful at all 😬 if anyone could just give an example of what it looks like for them would be great!! (My brain doesn’t seem to want to work haha)

Make me feel less anxious 😅

So I’m 7 Months PP, my husband & I just bought our first home & paid off all of my other debt. We are in a very good place in our relationship & went away a few weeks ago… & well on thing lead to another and he didn’t pull out (I’m on the patch for context but we don’t use protection). We’ve had a cold for the last week & I’ve been feeling super sick to my stomach but my husband says he is to.

I did take a test (period is due next week) & it was negative but I know it would be too early (my husband was bugging me 😂). He makes alot of “jokes” but not jokes about me being a stay at home mom, it’s something we both want. However ‘stay at home’ would mean work 2 nights a week & every other Saturday most likely (we both feel i should never completely not work. We have been chatting recently about if I am pregnant & what that would look like (not working until both kids are in school)

WELL. We are both very anxious about the possibility of me being pregnant, I feel like it’s unlikely because we’ve struggled with fertility issues in the past but like it only takes one time 😅.

For context my husband & I are open to the idea of another baby, we both would prefer a 3-4 year age gap & also would love to have another when I would actually have enough hours for maternity leave again. My work is very accommodating so I’m not concerned about that. I guess just any advice or well wishes would help 🤍 thank you

Am I wrong?

My 13 year old niece is awake. I asked her around 4:30am why she’s awake & around 5:30am she replied “Playing with friends.” I ask “Playing what with friends?! 👀 I love you, be good.” Am I wrong to be concerned? She lives with her dad’s girlfriend currently, but used to live with her paternal aunt, who was lazy and careless and irresponsible. Her dad is often out of state for work and her mom has always put drugs, alcohol and questionable men before her own kids. Her main guardians have been my MIL, her paternal aunt and now her dad’s girlfriend of maybe 8 months. I know it’s summertime, but am I wrong for thinking she should be responsible and asleep at this hour?

Another mum saying no to your child

I was at a small party and was standing next to another mum with her 3 year old. She told my child not to have a toy. I said it was fine and was annoyed with her. I was paying full attention to my child. Would you be annoyed? My toddler is 2.5 and they were in-between being shown something. To keep him contained then I let him have the toy.

I'm really struggling 🥹

I feel so ungrateful. I've wanted my baby for so long. He's my quadruple rainbow 🌈. I have an 11 year old but I don't remember things ever being like this with him.
My 7 month old has recently started crying and screaming over everything. Hungry Screams. Tired Screams. In the pram Screams. He used to sleep in good stretches and now he wakes up every few hours screaming. There's been days I've tried calpol when it's been really bad because I can only assume it's pain. But it doesn't make a difference. I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep and the constant headaches from his crying. My Husband is amazing but we're both struggling at this point. I'm just not enjoying being his Mum anymore 😭😭