How much working out is too much? AITA?

My husband has been trying to focus on his health lately but I’m starting to resent him for it and I feel terrible that I do. But he sleeps in every morning while I get up at the butt crack of dawn with the kids. He wakes up and immediately goes to work, gets off work, goes to the gym for an hour every single day, comes home and plays with the kids until I finish making dinner so normally between 30min-1hr. Then he goes on a walk for almost another hour while I put the kids to bed, clean up dinner dishes etc. I go to bed at 9:30 because I’m pregnant and exhausted and he stays up till 11ish every night so he gets some “alone time”. And I feel like I hardly see him but when I say anything about him spending so much time working out he tells me it’s for his health and that it shouldn’t be a problem. I’ve also suggested that he maybe restructure his day and go to the gym before work since he doesn’t work till 8:30 and has the freedom to make his schedule if he wants to. But he gets upset and says he “doesn’t like to lift before work”. So I feel like he’s prioritizing himself over me and the kids and feel like we hardly see him over something that could easily be changed. AITA for feeling this way?

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Im thinking of giving up my parental rights. What should I do

Ive been thinking just today that im really wondering wtf I was thinking about having a kid. I have major depression and I lay in bed all day. Im schizoaffective with ptsd. I never knew being a mom would be this hard plus my son is autistic. I have been handling all his issues and so far hes done a 180 but when hes at home hes a monster. He throws his toys on the floor and on the wall... they make a big bang noise... he doesnt listen to me. Hes also like a little tornado. I cant keep my house clean. He will go in drawers and rip everything out of them. Personally id like to live kid free. I thought I was up for the role but I have big issues that ive been struggling with for years. What can I do. I dont want to give up ny son but I do because I dont think I can handle this AND hes autistic. Any advice? Thanks

Is my husband being unhelpful or am I hormonal?

I’m 40 weeks tomorrow. My husband wanted to get some beer yesterday but decided not to in case we needed to go to the hospital. Today I was meant to have sweep but they couldn’t do it because my cervix wasn’t open. So he said he was going to get some beer because baby isn’t definitely coming today. He got himself a pizza for dinner and nothing for me and didn’t greet me when he came home, just went straight to bed.
My issue is 1. How do you know that? 2. He’s pampering himself, meanwhile I’m now having bad cramps and miserable! And 3. The midwife said for me to relax and for him to help with oxytocin and he’s being super unhelpful! I now don’t want to be around him because he’s bad vibes and I’m not feeling very oxytocin-full at all!

Is it time to call a quits?

My husband and me have been together for 20 years. We were young and so in love. Afte having our baby who is 1.5 year. My eyes have opened up and he is just so selfish.
He has never cooked, wont even make a sandwich or a wrap without my help.
He doesnt do the laundry.
Needs to be told what to do.
I am exhausted and feel I live with a man child.
He thinks he does a lot for our little one but its the bare minimum. All the mental load is on me.
What do I do?

Partner struggles (please don’t judge)

I’m a first time mum and my son is nearly 10 months old. I understand that having a baby will challenge your relationship… but at what point is enough?? I feel like since having my son. I’m no longer interested in our relationship. Having our son has almost made me feel like I can see things more clearly and my partners ‘true colours’ are more obvious. Whereas before having my son any behaviours I didn’t like, would just be brushed under the carpet, but having my son makes me feel less tolerant to this. I don’t want to paint my partner out to be bad a person, but he’s quite verbally aggressive and I’m tired of it.(I’m also not perfect myself) but sometimes I think would it be easier on me emotionally to do this on my own?? I’ve had thoughts about leaving but I’m worried about the financial side and having no support around me. We both own our home together and my partner has mentioned in the past that if I wanted to leave then it would be me moving out and him staying with our son. (He’s a solicitor) which also worries me if we I tried to end the relationship. I’m just feeling stuck and unhappy. I’m sorry this is long

dog mom guilt after baby 😭😭

Anyone else feeling awful to not have time/energy for their pets anymore after having kids?

I have a very high energy, high demand, Shepherd dog, and I used to take her out every day for basically an hour to get as much energy as possible out of her. She was everything to me outside of work I would think what to do with her like if she was my kid I swear.

Now if it’s a good week, I maybe have the energy to take her out once a week because even if I go on walks with my baby taking her with us it’s a lot. She’s reactive to other dogs so can’t go where other people usually go and now it’s getting so hot where we are that I can’t be out with the baby most of the day.
Idk I feel terrible overall and mostly when she comes close to me whining to get attention (which is all day everyday) and I’m already overstimulated/tired so end up pushing her away….

I know once my baby (4mo old now) grows up she’ll have a buddy for life to play with but I still feel terrible now because we just don’t have time and energy for her anymore :(

Difference in opinions with in-laws for raising a baby

It seems that everything is so opposite now a days in raising a baby than it was in the past. It gets so frustrating when they offer to help but have difference in opinions of the best ways.. Anyone care to share some experiences and how you handled it? I find it always difficult to set rules or boundaries.