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June 2022 Babies 🇺🇸

Child learning by getting hurt

So I’m in a silent fight with my husband we have two different views and I wanna get your ladies views/perspectives to even it out for us. Husband and I were raised differently. I think that’s the main thing here. My parents raised me the same way that I’m bringing up my son minus the trauma lol. Basically, my mother-in-law kind of sheltered her kids in the sense that she was overly protective with them falling and getting hurt. I was raised that if my parents tell me multiple times to do something unless there’s a chance of me getting majorly injured my parents would just let me find out the hard way. Like if you’re learning to skate or ride a bike you’re gonna fall you’re gonna skin your knee and eventually you learn not to do that thing. They got you hurt in the first place. Tonight, my son was playing with his uncle’s dog, which is a much bigger dog than ours and I told my son multiple times not to throw the toy close to where he is up in the air because the dog is going to knock him over and he’s going to fall. My son did not listen and what happened. The dog knocked him over. He fell on his back and he dumped his head on concrete yes. It wasn’t a huge bump. He’s fine. He got up, walked it off. I felt his head and this isn’t the first time he’s bumped his head. It doesn’t happen often by the way where he falls down and learns the hard way like this. I feel like these lessons are important because once they happen guess what happens my son learns to be careful and not do those things anymore and I don’t have to consistently tell him and if he does do those things while he’s gonna learn again until he really learns his lesson. My husband always gives me a dirty looks about this because in his mind, our son shouldn’t be getting hurt like this in the first place, but I can’t cuddle him because then he’ll never learn not to do things and why he needs to listen to us, his parents in the first place when we tell him not to do something, but what do you guys think?