Lost your way as a SAHM

So, I’ve recently became a stay at home mum and had to adjust to not being financially independent and having a massive amount of my confidence and identity being taken away.

I do love being a stay at home mum, but hearing my partner talk about work and earning money as made me a bit deflated. I can’t return to work just yet, so just wondered if there were any tips or groups or advice about how to still nurture myself whilst having a toddler haha :)

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Go out and do stuff! There's lots of fun free stuff to do! That way you can tell him the fun stuff you and your kiddo did!

I was the exactly the same in the beginning but honestly it gets better once you find your routine… one that works for you best. Enjoy it all, summer is coming up too you’ll be glad you’re not stuck at work and remember you never get these years back with your babies 🥰

Thank you so much !! It means a lot I think because I don’t have many friends too I can feel the jealousy kick in 😂

Maybe try to do something you’re passionate about, like a project that can even make you some money and you’d feel good about. I’m due in July so I’m getting ready for what activities to do with my baby so I just created my own plan that I researched and decided to share with other moms. I’m going to be a SAHM and would love to have something thats just mine to do as well since idk when I’ll be returning to work if that happens. Check it out. Might give you some inspiration. https://raisingintentionally.com/

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Feeling all sorts of ways- racial tensions

Anyone else feeling scared of the increasing intensity and frequency of race riots in the UK?

Also, before shit hits the fan like it does on other platforms (i can't believe) i have to say i think all perpetrators of violence are scum, whatever they may look like 👍

Would you describe yourself as..

Racist?
Obviously this is an anonymous poll so I wonder if anyone thinks of themselves as this? I’ve heard a lot of “I’m not racist but” then an obviously racist remark being said and wonder if people genuinely believe the first line they’ve just said. This is not to start an argument in the comments section…it’s I guess a fairly straight forward question.

Personal advice

I had a hunch so I checked my partners messages and he joined a porn sever and messaged one of the girls on there asking if her dms were open. Nothing happened but I'm still quite hurt that he even thought about messaging another girl. He said its because he lost control because I haven't done anything sexual in months (we have a 2 month old) idk if I can forgive and just need opinions

Break up or forgive?!

I just turned 8 months pregnant and I found out my baby daddy is on hinge.
He said he only went there because we had a little argument the day before and said he didn’t do anything.
Plus he had been texting other girls on instagram too!
He keeps saying sorry but honestly I don’t believe him no more, some of my friends say that I’m being to emotional because of my hormones. Honestly idk what to do!!! Mind this is the third time he messes up!🙄🙄
Should I break up with him or just forgive him???

Do you struggle with empathy ?

I feel like I really struggle having empathy for people, all I hear is aaa im a victim aaa im like this cos of this. I can really sympathise for people but I guess where I had it so tough growing up and into adulthood that I just get on with things yes it’s hard but I don’t ever use it as a excuse I use it as a reason to be better . I can’t stand weak people I guess that’s my problem! Does anyone relate or have any insight into this behaviour as I feel awful that I can’t give better advice other than suck it up be strong you can get through any thing !! 🙈

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I recently discovered that my husband was cheating on me during my pregnancy and continued the affair after our baby was born. During the pregnancy he was cold, distant, and repeatedly told me he was “frustrated.” A few days after I gave birth, he told me he wasn’t happy and didn’t feel anything for me. I was heartbroken and scared.

I stayed with my parents for a few days, but he didn’t want me to return home quickly. When I eventually came back, I found messages confirming the affair. When I told my parents, they said they couldn’t help me and were more worried about social status than my wellbeing.

When I confronted my husband, he blamed me. He said it was my fault for not keeping him happy, that I should have expected it, and that he had done nothing wrong. He has shown no remorse, no apology, and he is still in contact with the other woman, who works with him and whom I knew professionally.

I feel trapped. I have no financial stability, no support from my family, and nowhere to go with my baby. Currently on maternity leave, I am worried if i go for a full time job then how will I look after my baby. All of my earnings have been invested into our property assets. I earn a basic wage, while he is carrying a significant amount of personal debt. However, he does have a stable job with a strong salary

I am trying to understand my options and find a way forward, but right now I feel overwhelmed and alone.