intense mom brain

is anyone else’s brain feel very slow? i thought it was bad with my 1st but now with my 2nd baby it’s like i have double mom brain.. i just feel very slow in the head. i’m constantly forgetting about something on the stove and i come back and its burnt. it happened twice this morning and i even started a fire and im traumatized now. mom brain is affecting me so bad that i could’ve burnt my house down. please tell me im not alone in this.. when it comes to my kids im sharp but with everything else im deeply struggling.

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Genuinely confused🥴

My relationship with my MIL is really confusing. I got pregnant pretty quickly into my dating my husband, and she was excited through my pregnancy, but kept making comments to my husband about being in the delivery room.

When I gave birth, she drove 3 hours and tried to get in, but my mom and husband didn't let her in while I was in labour. Literally 8 hours after, she showed up in the hospital room to meet the baby. My baby was struggling with latching at that point, and she offered to "help" and grabbed my boob before I could say anything. I'd also ended up having an episiotomy and forceps delivery, so there was still literal blood and poop leaking out of me. She spent the rest of that visit filming a video holding and talking to my daughter.

I moved on cos I had a baby to focus on. My husband and I moved in with my parents temporarily as we'd just moved cities, but the whole time we lived there she would tell my husband that he's not a "man" because he's not providing (he is now and suddenly she's so proud🥴). She'd also make shady comments to me, and try to tell me about what I should and shouldn't do for my baby and this included things I strongly disagree with. She would compare her access to my baby, even though we lived with my parents and she lived hours away. My husband spoke to her even though he didn't understand the issue, and she stopped making comments to me.

The biggest issue for me is that she has always smoked during visits with my baby, and even once around my baby. I have made my husband tell her to stop three times, and each time, she'll stop for the next visit and then carry on smoking from the following visit. Even worse, my husband quit smoking since we had a baby, but on each visit, she still offers him a pack of cigarettes.

She has also been asking about when my daughter can sleep at her's since she was born, she's 12 months old now and I've never let her sleep over, but it's caused a lot of tension between me and my husband. I just don't think that she would respect other boundaries I might set.

Besides that, she's started being really nice, so I worry that im just overreacting or something. What do you think?

If you have any advice for me, I'd really appreciate it.

Sleeping through the night

My LO is 10 weeks old and has just started randomly sleeping through the night and changed her habits during the day - seems to be a lot fussier etc.

Has anyone else experienced this? How long does everyone else’s LO’s sleep for during the night? What’s the max time they’ve gone and do you feel like it’s impacted how they are during the day?

Do you also wake them up during the night if it’s been a long period of time?

Sorry so many q’s hah xx

Help

Nearly 6 months postpartum I can't sleep usually I can fall asleep after 3 am like physically can't sleep tonight I haven't slept at all whenever I walk in the bedroom to go sleep I disturb baby even when I'm silent he starts grunting sometimes he does a lil cry in his sleep and wakes up around 5-6 sometimes 8 am it's frustrating that I can't sleep ,I am getting a blood test at the start of next month for my thyroid and to see if I have deficiency in vitamins but it's getting so frustrating the lack of sleep

Seriously need help. Daughter is 2.5 and im ashamed to say but she wakes up 2 times in the night for milk!!!!

I have tried giving water, I say no or have even reduced to wean her and she cannot switch off!!! She will stay tossing and turning in turn ruining my sleep. Ive had a shit sleep since ive ever had my first and now this one does this every night im at the end of my tether now. In the day shes active, eats ok, plays and doesnt have a nap because I want her to sleep in the night. Ive even tried giving nap in the day to see if its over tiredness but no. She will wake up 2 times or 1 sometimes if Im lucky and wants milk. How the hell do I get out of this loop! Im sooo exhausted and I dont even get to be with my hubby either cos im always here. Its 4.22am right now i tended to her at 2.30 she screamed place down for milk so I am so exhausted I give in. N she demands to be in my lap. Shes trying to switch off right now as I type this. Deep down im so pissed off. I do the 24 7 care for her. Sometimes they go to mums for 2 or 3 hours which gives me a chance to speed up on my jobs. Ive been sooo exhausted cleaning deep deckuttering the house and lots of other jobs my brain is maxed out. Hubby does not help in these areas cos hes always at work non stop and to be honest hes shit at it even if he did help. Or would say why am I doing x y z and then later realise why! I am tired of explaining myself. Sorry rant xx

Sleep

Anyone’s baby still not the best sleeper? Mine happily goes to sleep at night but wakes up at least twice and has been awake for the day at 5 recently

Wrap baby carrier

Which one is the best to get baby wrap carrier for newborns please?