Children in danger

Hi I’m really looking for some support or even criticism in my reaction to this situation.

On Thursday my children were placed in what I consider to be a dangerous situation against my wishes. I live on a family compound with my dad, his gf, his cousin, and his uncle. My husband and I never leave our kids with anyone but being 3 months postpartum with a 3 year old and husband on overnights and me on day shift (he works 9pm-5:30am I work 8am-3:30pm) we realized a village may be nice. My daughter has gone to my cousins house 2 times to have a play date with her cousin and my dad’s gf has taken the kids 4 times so I can get things done. Thursday I was sitting on the porch with my cousin and my daughter and her cousin (3 years old) were in my dad’s truck (not moving) and he was holding my 3 month old in the drivers seat. I missed my pump session and needed too load pumps into the bottle washer so I’d have some for my next session. I asked my dad if he was going anywhere he said not anytime soon why and I said I obviously didn’t want him driving with my infant in the front seat and I needed to run inside to load the bottle washer do you have them for a moment. He said he had them I went in for 3 minutes and when I came out he was gone. My cousin was like “I tried to tell him no twice but he pulled off” I started flipping out and then my brother came back in the drive way so I knew they weren’t far so I took off on foot to get my children. I chased his truck up the road yelling to stop and he’s yelling are you fucking kidding me. I rip open his door and say are you fucking kidding me give me my fucking kid he’s got my 3 month old in his arms in the driver seat and I look in the back and my toddler is on the regular seat by the door with no seatbelt. He starts disrespecting me and I tell my daughter she needs to get out. I continue screaming at my dad when I wake around to get my daughter and I start walking my kids down the road explaining to my daughter that I wasn’t mad at her and that what her grandfather did was wrong. When I got back my cousin was on the porch and I said no one on the property would be left alone with my children ever again. I asked my daughter if she wanted to go in she said yes so I took her in woke my husband up filled him in briefly went out and moved my daughters stuff off the shared porch and said nothing to my cousin or any on the family on the property. The next 24 hours was filled with messages about how I was in the wrong…. Opinions?

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