Feeling like I’m parenting alone

I’m a SAHM and I know what I signed up for.
For the last few weeks or a month or two; I just feel like I’m the only one taking care of the daughter. My husband works at a bank and when he has to work on a Saturday he gets a day off in the middle of the week. I thought it would be nice to have him home for an extra day to help me caring for our daughter. Today was his day off and I wanted to leave the house alone to get my nails done. While I was gone my daughter in a full diaper. I fell like I’m always changing her diapers. I can’t even get one day to sleep in.

He wakes up early to go to gym before work. I want to go to the gym and I suggested going to the gym at night when my daughter goes to bed. He’s like no because it’s getting dark and there’s not going to be a lot of cars in the street. I only like 10 minutes away from the gym.
I feel like I want to scream but nothing is going to come out!

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I miss morning

I miss my mornings, I miss waking up making a cup of tea, sit in silence or watch something good. I didn't realize i missed it till, last week. My girl normally wakes up at 7am, i woke up at 7 expecting her to be up. She was not. So I decided to make tea. I was making tea and could not help,but to enjoy making the tea in silence and take my time. I normally do it in a hurry cause my girl needs me. I finish making the tea. I sit on the couch and I then realize how quite it is. I actually laugh and was surprised to have this time to myself. I then decided to watch a movie. Was so excited, only 10 minutes into the movie and my girl woke up. I was happy to see her, she then asked to play in the backyard, and i felt sad. After that just been feeling sad and mad in the morning. I miss not being asked questions, is what ur doing mommy? Play mommy? Book? Even if i tell her to play it will be for just 5 minutes that she'll play by herself. She will only leave me alone if am cleaning,but I don't want to clean the moment i wake up. I just want hour of morning silence. I feel selfish,but I can't help,but to miss. I love my girl,but I miss my mornings

In laws from hell

Hey, so I’ve been with my partner for 11 years and his family more or less have always disliked me. But now we have a baby I refuse to stand for the bs anymore as my baby won’t be put through that but I’m constantly being made out to be the bad guys it’s always me that’s in the wrong. My partner is amazing but he’s not always the best at getting his point across when it comes to them and they just talk over him in anyway. It always results in being the one to give in and I’m sick to death I don’t know what to do anymore to give you some examples of what I have to deal with. My mother in law called our neice “ a self absorbed little C” because she’s struggling adapting to having a little brother. She’s called our nephew “ a silly little twat” because he was “naughty” at school. The first time she met my daughter at a 1 week old!!!!! She took my baby off me took my chair and called her a little C because she wouldn’t keep her eyes open for a picture. Then called me miserable 🙈 the first time she met me when I was 14 she said it’s never going to work you may as well just be friends over 11 years later I’m still an issue. I’m told I hold a grudge and untill the last 8 months tops I’ve never said anything horrible/ never defended ourselves/ never said anything aparat from one thing which was about 4 years ago and it gets brought up everytime my partner has “words” with her🙈 if we see our friends that live near them we get moaned at and if we don’t we get moaned at. Every time weve visited in the last 4 years he’s lived me we get greeted with “ what the f are you doing here” oh and also maybe like 2 months ago we fell out with one of his sisters because she was slating and I mean she was being horrible about my boyfriend and because I defended him I was banished from her house. Oh and his other sister and brother in law blocked me and then decided to unblock me and now I’m in the wrong because I want nothing to do with them!!!!!!

What would you do?

(Sorry if these makes no sense, also this is just of the top of my head there is so much more)

Daycare

First time mom of a baby boy ! I’m returning to work after 12 weeks soon and I am dreading having to put him in daycare . I have so many negative thoughts when it comes to having to leave him with strangers 😪 . The daycare seems very safe and the workers seem very kind but I’m still in my head. Any suggestions to ease my mind ?

Dad taking his daughter's in the public restroom

How do you feel about that?

I feel so guilty

But I need a break. My 1 year old is poorly really not sure what’s wrong I’ve been told by the GP yesterday it’s just a cold but she has had one for 7 weeks (thanks to her sister starting nursery) but the last 3 days all she keeps doing is crying like she’s in pain. She won’t eat, She won’t sleep at night she just cries and honestly I can’t cope I feel like my house is a tip and that’s stressing me out.

My 2 year old I feel bad for as she keeps doing things to get my attention as it’s clearly mostly going on her sister. I’m just tired, their dad is barely around and when he is I just hear how hard his life is.

I’m just really trying to not lose it I literally just stood with my eyes closed whilst they both screamed at me 😣 after a couple of minutes they both did stop I think wondering what I was doing 🫣

Sorry just having a rant as I have no one to talk to. I know everyone has it hard just could do with 5 minutes peace and sleep.

Mother in law at it again

So I have really terrible in laws, I’ve dealt with it for almost 14 years. We have 3 kids- 10,7, and 2. They’re never involved, like we have to beg them to want to be in our kids lives. And last night my father in law said they want to take the kids to the beach, under one condition. My 2 year old cannot come. They say she’s too young and just can’t “deal” with it. I didn’t respond because I don’t even know what to say. I know what I should say, but it would be starting a war. Any advice? My husband is also helpless. He’s so numb to them, and will not rock the boat.