I'm struggling

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and have been told by the midwife that I'm measuring at 40 weeks already, I'm out of breath and so uncomfortable , and I have an 11 month old to look after too. It's honestly been so physically demanding and tiring. My partner is basically leaving all the housework to me, we live in a 3 bedroom house and he will 'help out' very occasionally, maybe washing up once a week or laundry once a week and never finishes the whole job. Like he will put a load in the washing machine and start it and that's it, I have to hang it up and put it away. I have to nag and nag for any sort of help as well and he will deflect it on to my autistic son as well saying he should be doing it. When I say I don't feel well, he doesn't even respond. I pay for everything in the house and for our daughter and he pays a few bills and cooks once a day. I'm in charge of the mental load, weekly shopping, making sure him, my teenage son (who has autism) my daughter have everything they need, I'm getting up at night for our daughter (every night) and it's just getting too much when walking up the stairs gets me so out of breath. Even washing up hurts my back and hips a lot but I have to carry on, even though he is physically able to do a lot more than I am atm. I'm growing so much resentment, as I've said so many times that I'm struggling and all he says mainly is that I keep starting arguments, it's so frustrating. He works part time as well and fo most of that time is playing video games, watching me struggle on. Needed to vent more than anything but don't really know what to do anymore.

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Jealousy.

I’m a sahm to a beautiful nearly 3 month old boy and I think I’m jealous of my husband. He gets hours to play games by himself and he goes to work (yes I understand most people don’t see that as a break but it sure seems like it) and goodness gracious he gets to sleep in on the weekends and the rational side of me knows I’m just overthinking it but why does it seem like all I get is to be my sons mom 20 hours a day while he gets to be himself 20 hours a day? Is it unfair to feel like I have to schedule time for myself while he gets to just be?

Ps
Yes I’ve brought this up to him and he says he gets it and does his best to give me that time but after a couple days it feels like it goes right back and I’ve pretty much trauma driven myself to believe that since I haven’t been keeping up with the house work I don’t deserve time to myself which is not his fault in the slightest I always choose to keep the baby while I watch tv and make dinner so he can have his de-stress time but I tend to let myself fall to the waist side and keep pushing past it till I cry to him at midnight about how much I’m struggling.

Feeling like I’m parenting alone

I’m a SAHM and I know what I signed up for.
For the last few weeks or a month or two; I just feel like I’m the only one taking care of the daughter. My husband works at a bank and when he has to work on a Saturday he gets a day off in the middle of the week. I thought it would be nice to have him home for an extra day to help me caring for our daughter. Today was his day off and I wanted to leave the house alone to get my nails done. While I was gone my daughter in a full diaper. I fell like I’m always changing her diapers. I can’t even get one day to sleep in.

He wakes up early to go to gym before work. I want to go to the gym and I suggested going to the gym at night when my daughter goes to bed. He’s like no because it’s getting dark and there’s not going to be a lot of cars in the street. I only like 10 minutes away from the gym.
I feel like I want to scream but nothing is going to come out!

Struggles with Partner

Hey, just looking for a bit of advice really as I don’t have many friends to talk to.

My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

He doesn’t do much in the house at all, but I’m fine with that as I don’t have set working hours due to helping with the business so I spend a lot of time at home.

The issue I have is that I am expected to care for the home, care for our son (who sleeps absolutely terribly), and help with the business daily. Whilst I have allowed him to focus solely on the business.

It feels like I am being stretched to do more, and he can be very hurtful with the way that he speaks to me. Sometimes I think I’d be better off doing it alone as honestly it feels that way sometimes now.

Just looking for some advice really or anyone who has been through something similar? 😞

How much does partner help?

Heyyy, I’m just wondering how much everyone’s partners help out with baby?

Toys and games for 11 week old babies

My baby is 11 weeks old and I'm looking for ideas for age-appropriate toys and games. What have your little ones enjoyed at this stage? Any tips for engaging activities or favourite toys?

Helppp

I am SICK of family asking my 2 year old for a kiss or a hug. Shes suspected autistic so is only really affectionate towards my husband and I (and that is also very rare!)
I dont want people kissing my kids as it is but to try force her when she really doesnt like it!!
I have tried the "she isnt affectionate" but how else can I phrase it without offending anyone??
She really just loves her own company.