Family visiting after having a baby

For those who have been in this situation where family wants to visit after having a baby, but because they live far away can't make it a quick visit (& to add to even more stress, would be staying with you), how did you and your spouse come to an agreement when you have differing opinions?

We are expecting our third baby :) To be quite honest, I don't want anyone to visit this time around who can't just stop by for a quick hello. I understand that may sound selfish. I compromised outside of my comfort level twice before and don't want to "suck it up" this time simply because my husband's family lives far away. Between really needing my privacy and space PP and with my due date being in January so peak flu/cold season, I don't want to deal with this again.

We visit my husband's family every summer for a week so I would love to wait until our annual trip. Yes the baby would be 6mo so no longer a newborn... but I have been through this twice now and having his Mom and sister fly out (we even had them stay in a hotel the last time) was too much. I felt this way as well with my previous pregnancies and the push back/vile texts I recieved from his Mom were awful and the guilt trip she gave him made him demand I just go with it to avoid her being upset. I am confident and firm now that her needs do not come before my own.

I want to soak up my last PP journey without the expectation of having to accommodate others. Any suggestions on how to get my husband to truly understand and support me?

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Jealousy.

I’m a sahm to a beautiful nearly 3 month old boy and I think I’m jealous of my husband. He gets hours to play games by himself and he goes to work (yes I understand most people don’t see that as a break but it sure seems like it) and goodness gracious he gets to sleep in on the weekends and the rational side of me knows I’m just overthinking it but why does it seem like all I get is to be my sons mom 20 hours a day while he gets to be himself 20 hours a day? Is it unfair to feel like I have to schedule time for myself while he gets to just be?

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Yes I’ve brought this up to him and he says he gets it and does his best to give me that time but after a couple days it feels like it goes right back and I’ve pretty much trauma driven myself to believe that since I haven’t been keeping up with the house work I don’t deserve time to myself which is not his fault in the slightest I always choose to keep the baby while I watch tv and make dinner so he can have his de-stress time but I tend to let myself fall to the waist side and keep pushing past it till I cry to him at midnight about how much I’m struggling.

Struggles with Partner

Hey, just looking for a bit of advice really as I don’t have many friends to talk to.

My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

He doesn’t do much in the house at all, but I’m fine with that as I don’t have set working hours due to helping with the business so I spend a lot of time at home.

The issue I have is that I am expected to care for the home, care for our son (who sleeps absolutely terribly), and help with the business daily. Whilst I have allowed him to focus solely on the business.

It feels like I am being stretched to do more, and he can be very hurtful with the way that he speaks to me. Sometimes I think I’d be better off doing it alone as honestly it feels that way sometimes now.

Just looking for some advice really or anyone who has been through something similar? 😞

What have I done?

I have a 3 weeks old and I'm starting to really freak out. I love him and will do anything I need to make sure he's happy healthy and safe but I'm terrified I've made a mistake! I don't know how to be a mum. I dont like other peoples children. I dont want to loose my identity and I'm so scared of messing up because again I do love him. I'm not enjoying this and starting to feel like I've trapped myself in a prison. I just want to be happy and I want to enjoy my baby but I feel so scared and lost. Please tell me this is normal and it will pass?

How much does partner help?

Heyyy, I’m just wondering how much everyone’s partners help out with baby?

Helppp

I am SICK of family asking my 2 year old for a kiss or a hug. Shes suspected autistic so is only really affectionate towards my husband and I (and that is also very rare!)
I dont want people kissing my kids as it is but to try force her when she really doesnt like it!!
I have tried the "she isnt affectionate" but how else can I phrase it without offending anyone??
She really just loves her own company.

Toys and games for 11 week old babies

My baby is 11 weeks old and I'm looking for ideas for age-appropriate toys and games. What have your little ones enjoyed at this stage? Any tips for engaging activities or favourite toys?