🗓️ Mommy matcha/coffee meet up

Hey mamas! I’m coming to San Fran and hosting a mommy matcha/coffee meet up ☕💜 (matcha's on me)

I’m looking to make connections in the area and meet more moms after having my third baby, my circle changed and honestly a lot has changed with me too. Looking forward to building some meaningful connections and finding myself again through this season.

If you wanna come hang, comment below! I'll add you to our group chat! 💜💜💜

in our community

Nursery

I’m sorry if I sound stupid but can someone please explain in dumb terms how nursery’s work applying and payment wise I’m self employed I made less than 10k last tax year this year will be about 15k ( what year does it go by when they mention earning x amount you are eligible for x)
How do I apply for funding. What funding am I entitled to do you do this before or after finding a nursery

I’m wanting to do maybe 3/4 days a week
I’m also on universal credit but I don’t get much from them maybe (200-400 a month) as I earn enough from self employment some months
I need my daughter to start as I know I can be earning more with the self employment but I don’t have time currently

Many thanks !!!

Has your husband ever mentioned divorce?

During arguments he will always tell me that we've got until X amount of time. Let's say Christmas, until he files for a divorce. He's even looked at divorce lawyers before now during an argument. 9 years later and we are still married, he's not mentioned it for about a year now because I gave him an ultimatum but I still think about it.

The words he said and how many times he's done it. I've lost count tbh. I've never done it, for context and my reply is always "okay" because he's done it that many times I know now he won't follow through with it.

Still it hurts, the mention of it.

careers and motherhood

Any fellow high achievers or career mums who since becoming a mum just don't care about the working world at all anymore, but have to work for financial reasons and resent it?

Looking for your strategies for working through these feelings...

Loss of identity

Okayyyyy so I have no identity, no passion, no hobbies, no job so I have no source of income/money to go and do things… please don’t get me wrong I LOVE my girls with all my heart and I have LONGED to be a mom for so long… but I really don’t have anything else going for me. I’m in the process of leaving their dad after a really abusive relationship of 3 years and the majority of that time working a very part time job in between being a SAHM. I’m trying to get a job but not many places are responding to my apps or even reaching back out to me after an interview. I don’t have much useful experience or skills and I can’t go back to school it’s too expensive and I don’t have the smarts and brain and motivation to go since there isn’t anything that peeks my interest. I’m almost 6 weeks PP and I just feel blah, lonely, and just plain empty. Tonight is the first night postpartum my girls will be at their dad’s for two nights three days since it’s Father’s Day weekend. And I can’t even imagine what I’d do… I hardly have any money to go out by myself or with the two friends I have. I’m uncomfortable having people over at my parents since my dad is a bit of jerk toward me whenever I have any company over… and with gas prices in the US I can’t afford to go to either friends house…

Anyone else relate?

First birthday present ideas from mum and dad !

Share your present ideas !

Advice

So my husband has an ex that wants to be friends.

A little background knowledge is that she did a lot to hurt him and she wanted to apologize and have a conversation with him. He said "as long as ny wife is there" long story short they had the conversation over the phone and it seemed like she was flirting with both of us. She says she is engaged but also has a history of lying to people. At first I was like I dont care if your friends but now im starting to feel as if I shouldn't have said it. Im currently 32 weeks pregnant and have a kid with him.

She says she is pan sexual and im bi sexual so I dont know if she would actually flirt with me behind her fiance back. The other thing is she barely even mentioned her fiance.

I dont know if I should bring it up to her or what. On top of all this my husband and I are looking for a third