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I need some advice, I’m tryna go about this the right way but I feel like I actually have no power. Bd has my 1yo from monday night to thursday night, this is the second week of this and hes saying he wants her til friday night instead. Bro I dont wanna give her to him for 4 nights and only have her for 3 myself. Idk what it is but i dont want him to have the majority. Ive told him no I’ll pick her up on thursday but hes pushing back, what even are the next steps if this cant be resolved between us?

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If the 2 of you can’t work out a schedule you need to take it to court and get a custody agreement set in place

Could you alternate the 4/3 night split?

If you are from the UK the courts will make you go through mediation. I suggest starting the process. If you cannot resolve it will be a court process.

One year is also super young, I would not have been able to handle that. My daughter is 2.5 and still has not had a sleepover at her dad’s. Mainly because he’s not stepped up and taken initiative.

Typically. Trying to take control make you look less of a parent. Don't worry it will switch and suddenly they barely see them. That's exactly what happened to me.

She's very young she needs mom more imo
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Also what state do you live in I would look into your state custody laws I know certain states have a law about overnights on certain ages of kids, usually under the age of two or three

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I preferred it too when they were young but as they got older and they wanted to go it was sad that he would just ghost them! It got really frustrating for us!

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