Comparison

I’m not sure if anyone feels the same but I feel since having my baby I’m constantly comparing my life to others around me. I wasn’t like this pre-baby but it feels like everyone’s buying nice things, going on fancy holidays with their babies and having a great time whilst I feel quite stuck at home. Maybe it’s the constant social media posts I see, but it just feels like everyone’s having a better time than me.

I know social media is just what people want to show you, but since having my baby I just feel I’m constantly comparing.

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I had the same conversation with my sister as I feel like i constantly compare myself to others mums online and put myself down for it. I see them take the babies out with friends and it makes me miserable because I only have my partner and sister in my life😩 but I try not to dwell and enjoy what I’m doing xx

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I’m like this about holidays and things feels like my babies missing out.
But I think it’s about perspective my baby hasn’t been Ona fancy holiday but he’s splashed in rivers and been to the zoo so he’s still having fun experiences, mind you at the zoo he was more interested in the crowds of people than the animals 😂

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Comparison is the thief of joy its a well known saying for a reason the best decision would just be to disable those apps until you can only show up with joy I did the same after my 2nd and it was the best decision till I was ready now with my 3rd socials just feel happy x

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Honestly, it's just social media. Avoid it or follow some more honest accounts (you can change your algorithm!). Most of us, I think, have good days and bad days, and most of us can admit that motherhood is not a walk in the park. but social media can promote a bit of an illusion.

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What would you do if your fiance the father of your 2 year old went out last night saying he’d be home at 12:30am instead come home at 9am…. Keep reading

So his phone died (this wasn’t a lie his phone is kinda broken and doesn’t charge well) so he had zero communication with me form 10pm to 9am so he didn’t tell me he was going these places as he should.

He proceeds to go to the club with his friend who is also a father and husband then to frat party and got really drunk and fell asleep on the couch with his friend at the frat party…
I know he didn’t cheat becauae they both are loyal but it’s the part where he didn’t tell me he was going to 2 places a man should let his fiance know he’s going because there will be drunk females at both and just out of plain respect…

He came back at 9am acting normal like what he did wasn’t absurd and crazy he claimed he avoided females but he was just out having a good time and got carried away

keep in mind he’s 25 his friend is 30
But FALLING ASLEEP at a frat house while you are married with a baby at home is wild work at am I overreacting for being so concerned disrespected and mad????

Keep in mind he’s not a cheater nor is his friend so their purpose wasn’t to go out and cheat but I feel weird because if you are that drunk how can you know what exactly went down I mean he fell asleep there that’s the part that really buggs me I’m just so upset I was unaware of all of this until 10am

He’s never done this before he’s never cheated and never not communicated while out he also only goes out with that friend maybe twice a month and it’s not to a frat party or club so I’m highly confused and concerned he doesn’t understand that even tho it was once that exactly what raises my concern even more I DIDNT EXPECT HIM TO NOT TELL ME HE WAS SLEEPING AT A FRAT HOUSE he left me worried all night and I’m the bad person for screaming at him because I’m feeling diminished…

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Gonna give this another try

Heyy! My name is Marie, I’m 24 and a ftm to an 8 month old baby boy. I struggle making friends and keeping them. Keeping them is my hardest issue because I’ll talk to you for a few days but then life gets busy and I completely forget to respond until I suddenly remember 🥲. I am inconsistent at times, but I am a good friend and a great listener. So… if you don’t mind me not texting everyday, let’s be friends🫶🏽
*pic of me and my boy when we went on vacation for his 7 months🥰*

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Is there any getting over it?

Me and my bf dont argue
But we bicker about 1 issue quite abit..
He doesn't see any harm in checking other people out, out and about and although he thinks hes discreet hes not
I dont agree with it, i didnt used to care before my partner but when i got pregnant i started getting very self conscious, and its only gotten worse since, everytime he looks elsewhere it makes me feel so ugly and worthless, like im not enough for him. He knows it all as ive said we disagree about it alot im just not sure if its something i can get over. I now have dreams of him cheating quite often which takes a different kind if toll. I feel so unattractive. I honestly feel less attracted to him too, he knows how if affects me but instead of helping me feel more secure in our relationship he keeps up his silliness.
It came up again last week, it was my oldests bday, we took him out to a zoo with his dad and while we were all sitting down at a table both my ex and boyfriend checked out the same person, I've honestly never been so embarrassed.
He knows it makes me feel like hes stuck with me because i got knocked up, he just doesnt care

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