Do moms ever blame their selves?

As a first time mom who just recently found out my child has infantile spasms(west syndrome) epilepsy… i can’t stop guilt shaming myself idk thinking if I could’ve done something different during pregnancy I just hate that she deals with that & because of it she has developmental delays & I can’t stop thinking where did I go wrong i’m getting her all the help that she needs, but I still feel terrible sometimes

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Will this heal?

My sons fell over and bit his tongue this morning but took a chunk out 😭

Controversial maybe but a 2.5/3 year old should NOT have a dummy (pacifier) in public.

When I drop my son off at playgroup, there’s often toddlers with dummies in their mouths.

I get that they’re a comfort for them etc but they are old enough to not ‘need’ to have one in their mouths during the day!

Sleep Deprivation

My 12day old sleeps for 3-4hours in the day in her pram, to the point I have to wake her up to feed but come nighttime she doesn't sleep. The last 4 nights it's been sleep time at 4am at the earliest and today she still hasn't slept since 11pm (only 20mins).

She is BF and we have just introduced one bottle of my milk during the night to see if that helps and it hasn't.

I honestly am broken, I am so tired and feel like such a mum failure that I can't meet her needs and settle her.

Please help.

What body & shampoo wash are you using?

My 2-month-old has a lot of hair. The only issue we’re having right now is that her scalp is dry. It’s not cradle cap—just dry skin, and the brand I use for pretty much everything right now is Mustela i also saw that they have a shampoo and conditioner so also wondering if anybody uses that for their baby.

Useless husband

Right, our 9.5 month old had a terrible night. Some of the wakes were 30 minutes apart. My Husband didn't help once. Didn't even wake up to our son crying.

The baby woke at 5:30 and I managed to get him back to sleep and he woke at 6:30 for the day. I'm nudging and tapping my husband to wake up and get him as I just need an extra hour of sleep. He didn't budge and I'm not leaving my son to cry so I go get him. I wake my husband and say it's time to wake up as I've been up all night so not fair for you to sleep in when you've had uninterrupted sleep. He said why didn't I wake him!? Why would I spend 2 minutes waking you when I can go and settle him in 30 seconds.

Anyway, my son's getting bored in the bedroom so my husband says to take him into the living room. I'm standing waiting for him to get up and follow as he's still laying down on his phone. He told me just take him and give me 5 minutes to wake up. Which I followed with I didn't get 5 minutes to wake up to which he replied angrily I DON'T CARE. ok rude. I'm now sat in the living room crying. It's been 30 minutes and he's still in bed.

Not really looking for advice just a tired fed up wife.

Cradle cap advice

My baby is 5 weeks old and I’m noticing some pretty bad cradle cap. Any suggestions on how to help it go away, I’ve tried breast milk on the scalp but not seeing much help so far. Also, anyone know if certain things would hurt the scalp? Wanting to make sure I avoid anything that would!