It's gotten to a point where my 5 year old is constantly swearing, muttering "f*ck" to himself over and over, or saying "what the f*ck" as he's playing with his toys. I've done some research and it says that they're testing boundaries and a big reaction will encourage them to do it more. I'm trying my best not to react, however I have taken his Switch and iPad off him as he needs to learn it's not okay to say. Just looking for some advice really on what approaches I can try or some tricks maybe? I'm grateful for anything at this rate. 🥲
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Sorry you’re going through this! My 5 year old has definitely tested these boundaries!
Our most helpful thing we tried was to tell him if he needed to swear he had to do it in his room by himself. So I’d hear him in there getting all his swear words out 🙈 then he’d come down and be better. We also tried ignoring most of it and of course being careful not to do it around him. He’s so much better now, although now I have a toddler who’s learning to talk he is proud of his responsibility to not teach him bad words. It’s definitely a phase that’ll pass. What’s he like at school or out in public?

I don’t know why your post gave me PTSD. Lol as a 90s kid if I swore in front of my dad. I would have gotten an ear full and more. Our children are so lucky they live in a different time now.

I only say: uh oh we don’t say this in our family. And same thing if someone swears in front of them of course. He’s clearly picking it up somewhere so I’d try and find where it’s coming from.

Do either you or your partner swear in front of him? Where has he picked it up from?
How long has he been saying it?
Is he saying it solely around you, or around your partner too? Or others?

My 5YO was kicking a ball at one of those inflatable dart boards and said "shit" when he missed. The childminder sternly told him she does not like that word, it isn't acceptable in her house or in ours. She told me when I picked him up. I asked him what he said that was bad and his reply was "I don't want to talk about it". It had gutted him that he'd been told off. But he lost any screen time at home for the rest of the evening. He's limited on it anyway because he's a nightmare attitude wise if he has too much. He hasn't said it since.