First birthday😭

My boy will be one on the 4th of September😭 the next couple of months will fly by so I'm now thinking about gifts.

One of the main ones I was thinking of getting a tonies box, anyone know if this will be a good idea? I've heard good things about them but don't want to spend the money if it's going to be wasted.

What are you planning on getting?

in our community

Sugar daddy

This may be a bit much, but I don't have any shame about it. Yes, I had a sugar daddy before I met hubby. I didn't have much of a sex drive, so I figured if I'm gonna do it at least get something out of it. Wasn't getting an orgasm...it was almost like an acting gig tbh. I was a single mom and the extra money helped. I didn't see him often just when I needed to, or he wanted. Hubby knew about it.. he told me that life was over once we got together. Okay, cool. Fast forward, we're married and I'm pregnant. We need money badly bc we're behind on some bills...hubby acts like he's stressed about it yet he wants to have 3 somes and shit. Idgaf about 3 somes bc again, I'm not a very sexual person. To me unless this person can help us with the bills, it's pointless. Why focus on having this fun when we are so behind on bills? I'd rather go see SD cause at least I can get the money to catch us up. But of course he doesn't want me to do that. I know some people may not agree with what I'm saying, and I understand. I guess I'm just venting because I feel like hubby is focused on the wrong thing And I guess I'm still stuck in that frame of mind where if a person can't help you beyond the sex then what's the point of dealing with them? He likes to call me a whore because of my past with SD, but honestly I don't care. Like I said I have no shame about it because at least I was getting something out of the deal that was actually helping me instead of just treating sex as a sport like he was when we met. I know this post is a bit much. I'm just venting don't mind me.

Friends

Anyone struggling to make friends? I feel alone and I don’t know if it’s that I don’t know how to keep a conversation going or if it’s something wrong with me

Would you stay with someone like this?

*long post* if you stay til the end/share input thank you

I am considering leaving my fiancé.. We have been on and off for about 6 years. I forgave him for infidelity, emotional & verbal abuse.

When I was completely done with him, I found out I was 2 months pregnant. That’s how we got back together and stayed together without breaks for about 2 years.

It took ALOT for me to trust him after the countless times he had cheated on me. He was truly treating me right since the moment I found out I was pregnant but at 3 months pp ( I am now 13 months pp ) I saw his TikTok and he was lusting over women. I even had a girl reach out to me a week later because he liked her TikTok story which was a booty pic. That situation created alot of problems & a lot of previous issues resurfaced.

Anyway, I forgave him and yet again kept finding the same stuff all over again.. . Yes I was dumb but I was postpartum and very vulnerable. I blame myself a lot. I even said yes to his proposal 6 months after that ( VERY stupid ).

So fast forward, we have been arguing over everything!!! But these last 4 times have been TERRIBLE. The emotional and verbal abuse has begun again. He will get mad and start calling me dumb, an idiot, start yelling and screaming. Pushes me to my limits then records me when I cry/retaliate to make me seem like the bad one. Every single one of those times he has taken EVERYTHING BACK. I’m talking, engagement ring, gifts, clothes. Literally everything he has “ given “ me. After packing his stuff he will drive off to his dad’s house and stay there for days on end.

We had such a BIG fight this last time that my parents stepped in and told him none of that was ok & he had to respect me. He said yes and was very embarrassed.

Well we just argued right now and I wasn’t feeling like sleeping in bed with him so I set my sleeping place on the floor.

He got so mad at me for doing that so yup he packed up everything again & left. I’m so sick and tired of this. I don’t feel like I’m overreacting but at the same time I’m confused because for years nobody has stepped in to defend me so I’m just unsure.

Back to work

Morning lovely mammas

I've started back at work last week and I feel absolutely awful for leaving my daughter. She's nearly 8 months old. She 2 days with dad and 3 half a days at nursery. But I'm feeling very guilty that I've had to go to work and leave her. I never imagined it would be so hard. I'm constantly telling myself it's so I can get some money to buy her presents for her birthday and Christmas but I can't seem to shift this feeling.

Anyone else feeling like that?

Birth plan

Is anyone going in with a birth plan? For my first, I took it really seriously and wrote things down, but in hospital and with things changing suddenly, it got ignored. Is it relevant in hospital?

Sad while pregnant

Am I the problem man everytime I want to express how I feel he thinks I want to argue , he doesn’t want to be around the family God blessed him with frfr everytime his so call homies call his phone he pick up for them and Text them back faster then he replies to me and stuff and he loves to smoke weed 24/8 since we moved back to his hometown and we got into a argument and I wasn’t even trying to argue with him 🥺😞😭💔