Time without my babies

I think it’s crazy to me my fiance thinks I can’t leave the house with the baby. I’m a sahm and he works 7 days and most of his schedule is from sun up to sun down….
I have a daughter coming into this relationship and when I have to get her and he’s home I’ll say hey I be back and he goes I just got off work and you want me to watch the babies.. uhh yes they’re you’re kids. Or sometimes I run to the store or pick up my oldest and if I leave the babies he complains or comment about it. When I get home he say you sure do know how to turn a 30 minute trip to an hour and it’s like damn do I not deserve time away from the babies I’m here every single day with them. If I want to go out to an event I have to ask my mom to watch him because he’ll complain that he has the kids for 2-3 hours .now he tells me to take 1 and I’m like why when you go to the stores or have to run errands you’ll just do it without even offering to take one of the babies 🙄🙄 mind you he ask for these kids and I told him I don’t want to feel like I don’t have a personal life just because I have kids and he said he won’t let that happen. With my first child’s father he never acted like this and he was the bread winner and I was the sahm .

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Hey lovely, I’m sorry you’re going through this! I will try to help from a neutral perspective and not take sides.

From your perspective you’re with the kids 24/7 with no alone time at all. And when u ask for him to watch the kids he complains and says these little comments, that are honestly annoying to hear. Like you stay with the kids 24/7 and he can’t even stand a couple hours?

From his perspective, he does work 7 days a week from sunrise to sunset as you say and he also runs errands too in his free time… he also must be exhausted and probably also has no time for himself with so much work and errands to run too. He is probably also struggling.

As an outsider I think both of you are having a tough time rn you with the kids and him with the amount of work he’s doing.

Now for the sake of your own sanity, I would advise against trying to change him! Because that never works and it will just build resentment.

I find my husband does better being prepped. U guys have to schedule your time. I say on thursday when u get home from work… im gonna go to the store for two hours. That way he can prepare hiself and knows what will happen.
You both have to respect eachother position. U both working. There needs to be compromise and consersation on how it can work. Get him involved in the solution. “U work 7 days a week, i am with the kids while u work and when u get home. How can we arrange our time so u get time to rest and time alone and also i get time to rest and time alone? How can we both win?”

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Would you leave, or am I giving up too easily?

Need some honest advice from other mums because I genuinely feel broken.

I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and we have a 3-month-old baby together. I don’t feel like his girlfriend anymore, I just feel like someone he lives with.

I’ve barely been anywhere since having the baby, yet he’s been out for the football, the pub, getting his haircut, went out all day yesterday after work until late saying it was “one drink”, is out again Wednesday , and already has more plans this week. I feel like I’m always at home with the kids while he carries on as normal.

We recently had a huge argument after I found links to OnlyFans creators in his browser history. Whether people agree or not, I see that as cheating because he’s lusting after other women, and his explanations have kept changing, so I’ve completely lost trust.

The biggest thing is how he treats me. If I cry, he ignores me, walks past me, tells me I’m crying “crocodile tears” or shuts the door in my face. I don’t feel loved, wanted or cared about at all. I’ll be talking to him and he’ll just be on his phone, it’s like talking to a brick will.

Yesterday I told him I wanted to end the relationship because I’m so unhappy. His response was that he’d rather keep doing this because he doesn’t want to only see the kids every other day. It felt like he wanted to keep the relationship for the children, not because he wanted me, he will refuse to let me end it as In because of the kids so I’m in this and miserable, every time I explain what’s wrong or try have a convo he goes “oh I’m ignoring u till you’ve had ur episode and calmed down “ imagine trying to break up with someone and everytime it’s like they refuse 😂??

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