Daycare vs SAHM care ?

I am a SAHM and looking to baby sit someone local. However I understand some would rather place kids in daycare despite flexibility and lower rate. What would you do?

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Honey in stir fry

My baby is 10 months old tomorrow and was accidentally given honey soy flavoured pieces of steak in a stir fry. I know not to give honey under 1 but didn’t realise the flavour packaging was honey soy and I feel so guilty!

Should I be worried? What should I look out for?

Who’s guilty?

So I was washing the dishes in my kitchen, and I have a window right in front of me. ( it’s a zebra curtain so it stays up for some light).
Anyway, as I am washing I looked out to see someone staring at me. So I started staring back, and then looked away ( as I finished washing). I then went back few mins later to wash more bowls as my kids finished eating. And looked outside and she’s passing and staring at me again! To the point she’s walking away, and turning her head back to stare and this time giving me dirts??

Is this a lot of help?

Sometimes I don’t know if I’m ungrateful and I do have a lot of help with baby or if I am mostly doing it on my own.

Just me during work week and my brother will come every other weekend to take her on a walk/play with her. My mother in law may come once every few weeks for a couple hours to watch her, or if we go round to her she’ll play with her or make us food.

My mum may watch her once every couple weeks for a few hours as well or she’ll come round to our house and help us do a tidy up or the laundry.

Need to ask explicitly for this so I try not to ask too much as feel burdensome, but still grateful they do it when they can. Otherwise just me and baby and husband

Hubby is great but...good at tricking

My husband is a really great guy. All of my friends and family also think so.
However, some days I notice how good he is at lying and tricking- which is a "skill" he openly admitted to.
Today, he told our toddler "Finish your dinner, then you can have ice cream" (I strongly disapprove with the method but that's a different story).
Then after dinner, he denied him ice cream. He said he never promised him anything, he simply said he could. I find that super manipulative and when I talked to him in private, he just went round and round in circles saying that no promise was ever made.
That makes me think of how easy it would be for him to lie to me, without technically lying.
I trust him with my whole life and believe he never would, but this ice cream situation and the deception skills he showed really creeped me out.
I'm spiralling a little! Would you feel the same or am I blowing this up?
Have you ever dealt with a good liar and if so, do you have any tips?

Would you be upset?

Typically my husband gets up and leaves for work before me and the kids are awake but I’m pretty sure he usually leaves our house around 6:30. The place he works at is about a 35 minute drive and opens at 8 but he goes in a bit early and starts at 7:30. This morning me and the kids were up at 5, he left for work at 6 so he was there and hour before his early clock in time.

Idk I just have been feeling lately like he doesn’t actually enjoy spending time with us and it’s honestly been making me sad.

How to put weight on a toddler

So I have a very active 16-17 month toddler, he eats 3 meals and snacks but he has twice been technically underweight by the baby nurse, he is in 9-12 months cause they fit him and anything older is way too big, so any tips or advice would be helpful, he is very active from morning till bedtime