Salad

I made a horrible salad
My partner knew I had a teething baby I was sleep deprived I asked how it was
He said it sucks it wasn’t a salad for him inedible gross not good
To me I can take the feedback - but knowing your woman is at least trying - couldn’t he have let me down gently like thank you for putting in the time? But wasn’t my taste profile - and leave it alone. What is everyone else’s thoughts. I then got upset and he said I should go find somebody else. In this relationship I can never be angry with him he’s never in the wrong - is how he acts. Never says sorry.

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Hubby is great but...good at tricking

My husband is a really great guy. All of my friends and family also think so.
However, some days I notice how good he is at lying and tricking- which is a "skill" he openly admitted to.
Today, he told our toddler "Finish your dinner, then you can have ice cream" (I strongly disapprove with the method but that's a different story).
Then after dinner, he denied him ice cream. He said he never promised him anything, he simply said he could. I find that super manipulative and when I talked to him in private, he just went round and round in circles saying that no promise was ever made.
That makes me think of how easy it would be for him to lie to me, without technically lying.
I trust him with my whole life and believe he never would, but this ice cream situation and the deception skills he showed really creeped me out.
I'm spiralling a little! Would you feel the same or am I blowing this up?
Have you ever dealt with a good liar and if so, do you have any tips?

Who’s guilty?

So I was washing the dishes in my kitchen, and I have a window right in front of me. ( it’s a zebra curtain so it stays up for some light).
Anyway, as I am washing I looked out to see someone staring at me. So I started staring back, and then looked away ( as I finished washing). I then went back few mins later to wash more bowls as my kids finished eating. And looked outside and she’s passing and staring at me again! To the point she’s walking away, and turning her head back to stare and this time giving me dirts??

Brother getting married - husband issues!

So my little brother is getting married. No children are allowed at the wedding. My baby will be 11 months old. I exclusively breastfeed. The wedding is an hour away and starts at 2:30pm.
The wedding is a small, intimate family gathering.

My brother has offered for his friend (a nursery worker) to look after the 3 children (ranging from 11 months to 3.5 years) in his apartment whilst the wedding is happening.

My husband says “no, this will absolutely not be happening, I will be looking after our child”

My husband said he will miss the wedding and look after our dog and baby. I asked that we could book a hotel room in the city for that night so that I could back to our baby as soon as possible (7-7:30pm). And my husband said “no, we are not staying in that sh@tholee city overnight when we could be at home”.

I think he is being ridiculous. I want to attend my brother’s wedding. I want to stay in a hotel in that city so we can all relax and have a good time.

For context the city is not a sh”thole and is quite popular in the UK. My baby will be without me for 6 hours or so. He will be starting nursery a week later.

Is my husband being unreasonable?

To the dads in our lives with a SAHM

I get it now. The insane financial pressure and fear, the agonizing ache of missing your kids and told it is what it is suck it up, the being completely exhausted from work and coming home and having to pretend you are fresh and ready to go, the immense shame and guilt for missing so much of your kids lives, the shame and guilt of watching your partner struggle and not be able to support them the way you want to because of your work, I get it now.

I know we talk a lot of shit about how lazy, selfish, and annoying working dads on here, but they deserve some credit too. Atleast moms get to complain about it. The dads have to keep it bottled up and constantly pretend everything is fine when they are drowning and there's no help coming

Am I being selfish?

I could really use some outside opinions because I’m feeling so torn.

My grandma’s funeral is on Friday, and it’s a 3½-hour journey each way. I have an 8-month-old baby, and my ex-partner (who I still live with) has offered to stay home and look after her.

I really wanted to go to the funeral on my own so I could just be a granddaughter for the day and grieve properly. I love my daughter more than anything, but I know I’d spend the whole day worrying about bottles, three meals, naps, packing everything, and keeping her settled after a 7 hour round trip on public transport.

My mum wants me to bring my baby (and my ex) because not much of our immediate family will be there, and she wants my Grandma to have as much family present as possible. She feels really strongly about it, and thinks I’m being lazy and selfish and now I feel incredibly guilty.

Am I being selfish for wanting to leave my baby with her dad for the day so I can say goodbye to my grandma properly? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m feeling so overwhelmed.

Husband advice

So me and my husband been together 8 years have a 3 year old. We’ve had several chats where I’ve said he feels like he doesn’t love me. He says he does but just doesn’t love me or fancy me the same as the beginning. He then broke down apologised for saying it and begged me to not leave him. He wrote me the cutest apology letter explaining how he loves me and would be lost without me and he’ll do everything to fix us. I said I need change. I need the cuddles, the kisses the appreciation. I said if I don’t get it, we won’t have another chat I’ll just leave… It’s been a week and there has been NO change, gone back to complete normal. What should I do.