Friend Meetup

Would anyone be free to hang out this weekend? I don’t have my kids this week, I’m not from here, and I don’t have family outside of my kids. I would prefer not to spend this weekend alone. I don’t know how else to word it without sounding sad but making friends as a mom has been really hard.

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Going on Maternity leave and funded childcare hours

Hi all!
I have seen many posts in the group about going on mat leave, and I thought about sharing a piece of information in case someone doesn’t know.
The entitlement of the funded childcare hours will depend upon when we return from maternity leave: government funded hours starts on the official terms (September for autumn, January for Spring, and April for Summer). Based on my research the earliest we can apply would be for September’s term and if we want to have the funded hours from then, we need to go back to work on or before 30/09/2027. So if you leave to go on maternity leave in October and take the full year off, returning only on October/2027, you will become entitled to the funded hours only from January 2028.
I know not everyone can or need access to the funded hours, but for those who do I know it can mean a massive strain in our finances not having it.
I don’t know much beyond that, I’m not a specialist, but I’ve learned searching on Nugget, best start in life, and of course some AI help.

SHOULD you help pay the mortgage?

POV: you meet a man who owns a home, you and your child move in with him after some time, he does not want you to pay the mortgage or bills despite offering to do so. He would be paying the mortgage whether you lived there or not. Eventually it’s agreed upon that you pay for the groceries (you insisted on some kind of contribution).

Years later, you pay for groceries, internet, Netflix, phone bills, everything for the kids, playgroups, school stuff, clothing etc. alongside your own personal car payments (loan, fuel, registration etc). You help to pay for some of the bills where possible.

You also become a SAHM to a new baby and lose your work hours because of it but you continue paying for everything you were paying for despite the price of everything going up while your pay has gone down so essentially ALL of your money goes on these things. He works full-time. He also splurged on a car loan a little while ago (we already have 2 cars) so he pays $600 a FORTNIGHT for his recent one, so we have 3 cars.

The man eventually starts saying you don’t contribute and that he has to pay the bills and mortgage on his own. Saying you never have any money but when you explain WHY you don’t, he doesn’t get it.

Your full time job consists of unpaid cleaning, cooking, baby sitting, making lunches, doing school runs & playgroups.

Should you also start paying the mortgage?

If you do start paying the mortgage, should he then go you halves in groceries, internet, Netflix, everything to do with the kids?

Give me your thoughts and opinions.

Advice URGENT

I found out postpartum that my husband slept with someone who had just had a baby four days before I came to see him before we started dating. We were already talking when he slept with a girl, but we hadn’t gotten together in person again. I feel super disturbed that he did this and did not tell me because I got pregnant two months after we started dating and then we got married a little bit later. For a background, my ex-boyfriend who I got back together with. I asked him how many people he slept with a couple months prior after I got pregnant because I wanted to make sure he didn’t have anything and he told me he only slept with one person. He completely lied to me about everyone. He slept with, and I literally found this out while I was actually pregnant.
When we first started dating, he cried to me about his ex-girlfriend or whatever she cheated on him. And then I found her underwear when I was pregnant that he kept in his stuff which bothered me a lot. Turns out he cheated on her first. I also caught him looking her name up on snap when I was preg. But anyways I have seen his whole Snapchat and found out before we dated he was a DOG like he was getting nudes from everyone and like was CHEATING on his ex on snap hard asf. Like idk how to feel. Abt any of this. Like i pretty much got over the nude thing it was just weird. (I downloaded his sc data bc he kept lying).
None of this was from when we dated besides he kept talking to one girl and idc anymore bc I alr got over that ig.
But all of that I guess from prior bothers me bc he’s never honest w me.
Ever since I got bigger like in my pregnancy and had the baby I have been constantly thinking abt his ex and him after like knowing and seeing all that. Like she’s super pretty and skinny and like prettier than anyone he’s EVER been w or anyone I dated has been w and it bothers me. I used to be skinny blond and like hot. Now I literally look fat and terrible and my boobs sag. I just feel so bad about myself idk what to do and I always get so mad abt her. Thinking what he said to her and how much he prolly liked her. And like I look at her page idk. I just always compare myself to her. And ask him about what he did and said with her. I feel so bad about myself. I literally think about what they did together all the time and how much he prolly liked her. It’s so terrible. Ik I mentioned earlier I found like her underwear and stuff from when they dated he didn’t know was there. But like finding out other stuff abt her and seeing what he ordered for her idk. Bothers me. I think it bothers me she looks better than me like ik that’s bad. I can’t stop. And I’ve never been like this only since I’ve like had the baby. Can someone pls give advice.

Do you like men? Like, actually like them?

Not “I love my husband” or “I love my boyfriend.”

I mean, do you genuinely enjoy men as a group? Their company, their conversations, the way they think?

Or do you mostly like your man (if you have one), while finding yourself exhausted by men in general?

Sometimes I wonder how many of us love a man rather than actually liking men.

If romance, sex and relationships were taken out of the equation, would you choose to spend time with men over women?

I’m genuinely curious.

Contraception

Hey! I’m currently 6 weeks postpartum. I originally declined contraception as I haven’t been on it for 2 years before pregnancy and my partner was debating a vasectomy. He’s now changed his mind which means I’m going to have to reconsider contraception :/ as we definitely do not want anymore babies. I originally stopped taking contraception as I have tried the pill, the implant and IUD. All have messed with my periods and made them really irregular, longer bleeding etc and affected my intimacy with my partner which, after waiting so long for postpartum bleeding to stop, I don’t want to have to deal with again! I guess my question is which contraception have you guys used which least affected your periods??

Texting friends

Looking for texting friends. Im a big texter. The occasional FaceTime. 37. Mom of two daughters 12 and 10. Disabled. Shoot me a message or drop a comment.