My mom tries to take my kid, tells her to call her “mommy”

My mom always tells my kid she’d be a better mom to her than me, tells her to call her mommy, and answers for me when my kid calls for me. We had a huge blow up on Saturday because she kept acting like she could parent better than me, and challenging my parenting decisions in front of everyone. Examples include telling my daughter the glitter I put in her hair is dangerous and will make her go blind which resulted in my kid crying for 30 minutes that I don’t love her and want her to get hurt. Or when my mom tired to shame me in front of the family for not having sunscreen on her and my sister and her two friends both stoood up and vouched they saw me reapply sunscreen multiple times that day, and mom called us all liars.

Anyways, today she’s babysitting while I am at work and she texts me that my kiddo is being really misbehaved “unlike ever before” and keeps throwing pencil at her while she drives and is opening the car door while my mom is driving. I told her that’s odd because my kiddo has been so good all weekend, minus the few hours she was with my mom on Saturday, and that all day today she was a perfect angel. My mom says I’m lying and she knows there’s “something seriously wrong” and she wrote “something is happening to this child at home.” Which feels like she’s accusing me of something? I’m honestly getting really angry, and I asked what she’s talking about but she said it’s “too serious to talk about over the phone” and then asked me if I just want to leave my child with her so I can “go to work and do your own thing, since your career is more important anyways.”

I’m a single mom. Not working is not a choice… but it’s not my priority. I’ve stayed home from work for every sick day, school field trip, class holiday party, etc.

She wrote “I know my special little baby doesn’t act like this” insinuating something is wrong, but I know she’s just have a tantrum because my mom spoils her and lets her do whatever she wants. I’m really tired of this whole charade and knowing she says things to her too. My child has told me that she loves her grandmom but she makes her uncomfortable sometimes when she asks weird questions about our home life, me, and who I hang around with. I’ve confronted my mom about this too and she denies it. But my friends have heard my daughter tell me about it and also been like wtf did she just say?

I don’t really have any other childcare options, but I want my child away from my mom. When I say this though, everyone gets weird and says she’s my mom so I need to just ignore it.

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Postpartum resentment towards family and friends

I’m a FTM and well over a year postpartum but I still struggle to this day letting go of resentment I built PP toward family members and friends. I went through a very difficult PP those first at least 5 months and when I needed support most, my brain was paying very close attention to who showed up and who didn’t. I was drowning and calling out for help, everyone knew how much I was struggling yet no one showed up for me or they only did once. I’m new to the UK so I have very little friends here(if any) and the only family I have is my husbands. I’ve recently found out some of these said friends/family members that didn’t ever help me are having their first babies and I’m expected by them and others around us to help with the baby and the mum specially during PP. I just cannot bring myself to help them knowing they never helped me(not even texted me to make sure I was ok) when I needed it. Any kind friendly advice to let go of the resentment I’ve held in my heart towards these people since I gave birth? Any one else experienced this?

Floor beds

Thoughts on these? I really want to get one for my son when he’s about 18 months.

If you have one please share which ones 🥹🥹🥹

When did your baby first start crawling?

I’m a first time mum, don’t get me wrong, understand that all babies are different, but I would just like some reassurance.
My baby is 8 months old, we’ve had no interest in crawling, pulling self up, walking along furniture or going from tummy to sitting or vice versa.
I’m in a group with other babies the same age, and everyone’s babies seem to be doing all these things…
I wasn’t worried until I read what other babies were doing at this age, and it seems like a lot compared to what my baba can do.
I just don’t want to fail her. Please let me know if your baby was “late” or took a while to reach milestones.
Thanks in advance xx

Anyone else feel like their belly skin is literally on fire? 😭

I’m 33 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I am STRUGGLING.

I am so much bigger this pregnancy than I was with my first. My belly is absolutely exploding with stretch marks and the itching is unreal. I feel like I’ve scratched away all the skin I have left. I’m moisturizing constantly and nothing seems to help.

But now there’s something else that’s worrying me. For a couple of weeks after my C-section with my first, I remember the area above my incision feeling like it was burning. My skin hurt to touch and I was told it was related to the muscles/healing process.

The last little while I’ve started feeling something very similar again, except I’m still pregnant. The skin on my lower abdomen, above my old C-section scar, feels numb but also burns at the same time. It’s hard to explain. The closest thing I can compare it to is what I imagine frostbite would feel like. It’s constant and becoming almost unbearable.

Has anyone else experienced this during pregnancy, especially after a previous C-section? Is it nerve pain? Stretching? Scar tissue?

I honestly feel sad because mentally I don’t feel “done” with this pregnancy yet, but physically I want out of my own skin. Between the itching and this burning sensation, I feel like I’m going crazy.

Would love to hear if anyone else has gone through this. ❤️

How often does your baby cry?

I know babies cry but I don’t know what’s a normal amount. My first LG cried 24/7 with colic and this time round my LG cries a few hours a day. I don’t know what’s wrong with her if she’s fed, changed, burped and slept she will sometimes be really upset and then randomly other times she will be really settled.
She had her tongue tie done a week ago as I thought she was previously struggling with trapped gas (it has improved loads), but I don’t know if there is something else I’m missing or if this is just normal for babies not to be content when they’re awake?

Jabs

Has anyone got any positive 8 week jab stories? My babies are tomorrow and all I’m hearing is horror😖😖