Can we use dummies overnight to settle fussy baby?

Our baby is 4 weeks old and just won’t settle for sleep. We have tried everything in the books and we’re pretty frayed and desperate. What is the current thinking on using dummies? Can we use it for the overnights and not interfere with his feeding? We are exclusively breast feeding otherwise and he is feeding well. The only thing I’ve seen about dummies was a pamphlet about how to stop using them which implied we shouldn’t start…

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Postpartum resentment towards family and friends

I’m a FTM and well over a year postpartum but I still struggle to this day letting go of resentment I built PP toward family members and friends. I went through a very difficult PP those first at least 5 months and when I needed support most, my brain was paying very close attention to who showed up and who didn’t. I was drowning and calling out for help, everyone knew how much I was struggling yet no one showed up for me or they only did once. I’m new to the UK so I have very little friends here(if any) and the only family I have is my husbands. I’ve recently found out some of these said friends/family members that didn’t ever help me are having their first babies and I’m expected by them and others around us to help with the baby and the mum specially during PP. I just cannot bring myself to help them knowing they never helped me(not even texted me to make sure I was ok) when I needed it. Any kind friendly advice to let go of the resentment I’ve held in my heart towards these people since I gave birth? Any one else experienced this?

Cloth diapers trouble

Hi, I need help. My baby girl is 9 weeks. We were using Kudos diapers and they gave her diaper rash. We have cloth diapers and wanted to give it a try. Last night I had her in 1 that only has 4 snaps in the front and she was swimming in it. She peed through the shell this morning so I put another one on her with 2 inserts, one is sewn in the the inside of the shell and the other I just laid on top. We have a few of these type but they are so big and bulky on her. She is only 7lbs. Is there a way to still use these now? She has a disposable on because she was histerical i didn't want to make her wait while we figure it out. This one too has an insert in the pocket and she is sitting on one. Is that too many? She doesn't poop often but pees. I don't want her to have a leak but these seem huge. I snapped the rise buttons top and bottom together and pulled the wings out but they still seem huge. She slips out of them a little. Idk what to do. I have all these cloth diapers I would prefer to use but idk if she is still too tiny. Thank you in advance.

Jabs

Has anyone got any positive 8 week jab stories? My babies are tomorrow and all I’m hearing is horror😖😖

lip tie or normal

looks like a lip tie to me but honestly i have no clue please lmk

Wake windows

Anyone else’s baby pretty much sleep through the night but they’re awake 80% of the day? My baby only has 2 feeds through the night and is flat out but he’s awake so much in the day lately! He’s probably only slept 60 minutes maximum all day today. Is this normal lol?

3 month breast feeding ‘crisis’?

Is this a real thing? My little boy is 3 months and 2 weeks and the last couple of days is becoming frustrated and upset when feeding (not every time). He feeds for less time which I think is normal now my supply is regulated but is sometimes finishing feeds by crying, he larches/unlatches more frequently or will make a lot of noise whilst still latched as if he is uncomfortable/upset. He’s having plenty of wet nappies so I am assuming he is still having enough milk.

He’s never been like this before and I’m wondering if there is something I need to change or if it’s a case of riding the storm until he settles back down.

Any advice / reassurance is welcome!