Lost 😪

My husband has had a cough/stuffy nose the last few days and so I haven't been going to see our son in nicu as we don't want to risk anything (for him or the other babies) At first I thought it would only be a day or two at most but now its been 5 days where I haven't gone and it's absolutely killing me 😭 I call the nicu every day, multiple times a day to check how he's doing ect but it's not the same as all I want to do is be there and hold him, even just hold his hand 😩 feel like he's going to have changed so much since I last saw him. I've been going everyday since he was born (nearly 8 weeks ago) 😭

(Not in a mean way but) Husband says "we knew this could be a possibility" (that one of us would get ill and not be able to see him) but that doesnt mean it doesnt hurt 😩 I was crying most of last night when I realised today would be another day without seeing him and my husband literally said "why are you crying" 😭 i don't understand how I could possibly not crying about being so far away from our baby 💔 men just process things so differently 😩

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Can we just "make time"?

Here's our situation. I'm on maternity leave, with a baby, and a toddler (who goes to nursery part time). I'm managing to work out 4-5 times a week, from 6 to 7am (often baby wakes up sometime in that window so I'll put him down with some toys for a little while).
My partner works lots of weekends in preparation for a month-long trip he'll do by himself. In addition to this, sometimes he comes home late in the evening because he's also doing an online training course which he does at his office after work.
This morning he told me that I should do a training course too. I said "When?!".
And he said that "It's all about willpower" and "It's just like my workout, I didn't have the time so I made up that time". Which I find irritating...but does he have a point?
Has anyone been able to finish online training while on mat leave?
Or is that ridiculous because he's literally away all the time?!
(I'm not looking for validation by the way, it struck me as ridiculous but happy to be proven wrong!)

Leaving baby to cry

My baby is nearly 3 months old and my partner is having a go at me because I always comfort my baby when he is crying and dont like to leave him to cry it out at this young age? Am I wrong for this or right?

Nursery drop offs

My 1 year old has been going to nursery for nearly 4 weeks and the drop off’s are getting worse not better. He screams, crys and clings onto me so neither myself or a nursery worker can hand him over. As soon as we walk up to the door he realises and cries before I’ve even rung the bell for someone to come out. I’ve never seen him so distressed until now😭 His anxiety is so bad he now cries through his baby groups he’s been happily going too for. Once he is in he is settled but the drops off are awful for the both of us. months. I know it’ll take time but surely there’d be even a slight improvement by a month? I don’t know what to do if this continues as it feels so wrong leaving him in such a bad state

am i crazy or???

Mind you, 41 days Postpartum.
My birthday is end of july. My husband wants to take me out for an overnight at a casino 30 minutes from home.
that’s not my issue.
my issue is that he asked his mom to watch our baby while we go and this was the 1st i heard of even a bday trip AND her potentially baby sitting.
(setting the scene)
1. we live with my mom and her husband.
2. i’ve only met his mom 4 times.
3. we never talked about who will watch her.
he thinks i’m upset because he asked his mom.
his mom is the 2nd issue, my 1st issue is that we didn’t talk about where MY baby will go during this overnight….
like am i crazyyyyy or ???

Lunch ideas

I seem to struggle with ideas for lunch for my seven month nearly 8 month old and was wondering what other people would give their little ones for lunch I feel like I’ve got dinners aced but lunches I struggle with 🤦🏻‍♀️

Thank you 🩷💙

Do you clean up after your husband

So this what I came downstairs and seen usually I do but this man turning 40 next Wednesday the 15th and I'm not cleaning up after him no more.