Coping in this heat?

Really struggling with the heat, our maisonette is upstairs above garages and we can’t cool it down, we’ve tried everything and ALL air con units seem to be out of stock, can’t get the rooms cooler than 29 degrees in the day time and about 25 degrees in the evening! Baby won’t settle in her cot in the day, only on me but surely my body temp isn’t helping her cool down! she’s 5 weeks old today and has basically been living in just a nappy the majority of her life! We even went to stay at my mums for a couple weeks while my partner was off work because it’s a little cooler there but he’s back to work soon and I don’t know how I’m going to manage, she spends most of the day awake and i can’t settle her for a nap- assuming it’s because of the heat. Other than that she seems healthy- plenty of feeds, plenty of wet and dirty nappies she’s gained about 4 pound since birth but I just feel guilty for not being able to cool the place down and keep her as comfortable as possible🥺

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Calling secondary school teachers

My boy was born prematurely and therefore was born in August instead of October.

We have to apply for schools this year (a year earlier than we thought due to him being premature) and thus need to consider whether or not to apply for a deferred entry (so he starts reception the following year).

This will ultimately means he is technically a year behind in school but actually only 3 days older than a child born on the 1st of September.

His development is great, very normal for his age but I am considering the deferred entry due to him being so young in the year.

My fear of doing this is that he'll get bullied in secondary school for being 'kept behind a year' 'he's so dumb' that kind of thing.

Just curious to see whether any secondary school teachers on here have experience with this?

I'd never forgive myself if we did keep him back and then got bullied for it!!!

“Soon he won’t want you, he’ll be wanting me instead!”

Have any of you had a MIL that says, “soon he wont want you, he’ll be wanting me instead!” or anything similar?

When my baby was less than 5 months old, she was holding him, and when I asked for him back because he was showing early hunger queues this is when she stated “Soon he wont be wanting you, he’ll be wanting me instead”.

This comment has haunted me for 2.5 years, plus her behaviour seems to match this statement. She makes me out to be “the bad guy” in front of my son, making me either give in and allow him to have cake whenever she’s around or I have to say no he’s not having cake in front of him (which then causes tantrums) or saying things like, “oh no, whats mummy done now” to him when he’s crying because I’ve got him dressed/changed his nappy/made him have a bath.

Do you think my child will stop loving me? Will he want her instead of me? Is this normal?

4 am rant im disgusted

i take care of her all the time she’s 8 months old. he “works” from home i still do it all. the only thing he does is take her in the mornings but he used to not even do that for the longest time. and hes got me half awake the whole time because he loudly complains for 10 minutes before taking her downstairs. i cook i clean ive been exhausted going to doctors he knows this

she hasnt been sleeping good i gave her an amazing day with my family and been absolutely exhausted. her and i both for the first time ever napped 3 hours from 12-3 yesterday because we needed it. she’s been up from 2:30-3:45 with me ive been trying to get her to bed. he says “its because you guys slept” all mad. i ignore it. she falls asleep nursing because he never fucking helped me for months in the beginning so i had to do what i had to do. i slid her around to face me because shes crawling all over the bed OBVIOUSLY SAFELY i have such a happy healthy baby thanks to me. and he puts his hand around my wrist and throws my arm back. starts YELLING at me to not “whip her around” and when i tell him to be quiet so she doesnt get more woken up he keeps yelling shit. yhen says “come to daddy” and pulls her toward him. idk what i said probably something along the lines of i cant take this i go to walk out the room and he says for me to “leave tomorrow”
which he loves to say and i say he’s a little boy. he goes “i’ll spit on you”????? are you fucking kidding me? i say he’s trash (because him and his whole family are its disgusting) and go downstairs. gave him 10 mins to try to put her to bed now shes crying because shes hardly used to him. he cant do anything i cant believe he said that shit to me. i know i sound pissed but im venting on here because idk what else to do and dont feel like engaging with him

Coconut oil baby scalp

I put coconut oil on my baby’s scalp because of some flaky cradle cap. I washed his hair afterward, but now it smells awful! SOS!🫠🫠🫠

Idk

I’m 11 weeks pp. I texted my boyfriend I’ve been feeling down. Feels like I’m failing, unloved and just alone. He made it seem like it was towards the relationship or him and started arguing with me. I expressed it wasn’t and he sees it as he keeps telling me he loves me but I keep saying I feel unloved so I must want to be single and find someone to mess around with or be with idk. But I really just have a lot going on internal. But now he won’t texting me even after I told him I’m feeling worse now. I keep so much inside for reasons like this but I just really wanted to open up because I feel like I’m going through stone ppd.But now I regret it because he just made it about him. My mind is just everywhere rn and I’m having some bad thoughts. I just wanted some uplifting but he made me feel like I just deserve to be in my dark hole

Leaky nappies

Does anyone else have issues with nappies leaking out the back overnight, we’ve been using pampers or pampers premium but have the same issue with both. The nappy doesn’t even seem full it seems to come out the back before it’s been absorbed. I’ve made sure it’s high up the back and tight enough but it still happens 🫠 please help, thank you xxxx