Mother in law buy clothes and hygiene items for your partner. How would you feel?

Not for a specific occasion. Just bought him stuff eg belt, perfume, shoes, work trousers etc
This is a couple pairs of items.
My husband’s excuse is that it’s because he is starting a new job. But she started buying him stuff before this isn’t the only time.

Context: She doesn’t like me or her grandchild, she didn’t come to our wedding and have never seen their grandchild.
Husband moved close to them for work living in his bros house but not with the parents directly. They wanted him to move so badly and facilitated the move.

How would you feel? Thing is, he has no extra cash for our son that he has left with me. He pays the mortgage but I have to do everything else myself including childcare. Yet he has meta glasses and starting to live luxuriously meanwhile I look like trash. Maybe I should accept gifts from other men because as far as my dad is concerned my husband is responsible for my upkeep so I won’t be getting such from my parents.

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I don't think MIL is the issue here...

I think you’re probably more offended because you don’t have a good relationship?

As I’ve always had a good relationship and I’d feel grateful if someone was helping in this way to save us money.

Accepting gifts from other men? lol “and as far as my dad is concerned my husband is responsible for ur upkeep.” Everything that u described just seems like “YOU” problem. Ur in laws are doing what parents do; they help their kid out even if he is an adult. Why did u marry into a family were the inlaws didn’t like u? It also seems like u resent ur husband

How does a parent buying their child gifts have anything to do with you getting gifts from other men?

I was probably naive to realise the impact it would have on us. My husband did convince me that it won’t, that he loves me and it’s me he wants to build a life with and I wanted that. Since then my in laws have said we are not of God. They said our child is not God’s will hence they haven’t wanted to see him.
I don’t resent my husband. I resent that he left us to follow his career leaving me without support because we don’t have the resources to get extra help.

My mom buys my partner stuff. (And she comes over with excess paper towels from her house, extra bottles of juice and snacks for our house, shoes for our son, wipes sometimes)
So idk 🤷‍♀️ I don’t think I’d be bothered but I dunno the extent of your circumstances

in our community

Why is it so hard to make genuine female friendships

Honestly I’m starting to think I’m the problem, I hate forcing things and it seems like women want to be chased down for a friendship. Why not put the same effort yall put into a relationship into a friendship

He snapped 😡

Really angry and just need to vent. So I was ill on Friday (just a really bad cough, headaches and sore throat) and had the baby all day which was fine and unavoidable. Wasn’t ideal but just kept her in the house and kept her entertained.

Baby daddy has caught it from me and when she woke up this morning we brought her in our bed like we do most days to just chill before I go and make her bottle. She started getting a bit whingey and I asked him to just watch her so she didn’t roll out- she’s 9 months and just started crawling so she really doesn’t sit still- and really nastily he went “oh shut up *name*” through gritted teeth when I tried to move her over to him and started crying a bit. He has done this once before and I told him not to speak to her like that as she now understands tone- just really upset me as even if I felt like shit I wouldn’t speak to her like that. Scares me as well that if I ever left him (other reasons), how would he speak to her when I’m not there.

Brought her downstairs with me and put her in the high chair whilst I made her bottle and we are now just chilling downstairs together but wondering if I am overreacting?!

Random rant…

My baby fathers mom came in town for the week . She stayed with us at my house the last 2 nights she was in town. Last night he went out and we were talking . She said to me “ I hope you don’t be mad at me that I go see this girl and that girl that’s just what he wants “ so im like im my head is she implying that he had her going to see a whole bunch of different girls 🤨…. She also goes to say she hopes he marry me and she don’t know why he be back in forth with this women and that women but we belong together and she can tell he loves me ??? We had a long talk and when I say im soooo lost it’s like she is telling me he is cheating without telling me but asking me to stay ?? Today is his birthday but im kinda giving him a attitude because I want to address some things but I don’t want to ruin his bday nor do I want to throw his mom under the bus ☹️☹️☹️mindful im 10 weeks away from having his first son ( out of 8 kids tho ) oh and she also basically told me the first few nights she was in town she stayed over his recent babymothers house ( because my grand babies are there was her reason ) but he lied and told me she was staying with his sister… mindful I just got into a physical fight with the babymother 2 weeks ago ( YES SHE CAME TO MY HOUSE TO FIGHT BECAUSE SHE GOT WIND THAT IM PREGNANT ) .

Personal question with thrush

Hey everyone, quite random not to do with babies but I wanted some advice and seeing if anyone has experienced this

But I’m really struggling with recurring thrush I do everything I use probiotics I wear cotton underwear I don’t wash with scented soaps or have baths I use basic clothes wash I don’t have a high sugary diet and I’m just at my wits end constantly I don’t know if it’s linked to my period but some help and advice would really help
I’m currently breastfeeding so I can take the tablet
Already been to the doctors and have several courses and it improves my symptoms but they don’t fully go