Going out with baby
Hi! I have an almost 4 month old and honestly it’s been hard ever since my husband went back to work. I definitely have PPD and have been actively seeking help (therapy, support groups, etc.).
Going out with my baby gives me some anxiety, especially anything that requires me to commit to a time since I can’t predict her mood and if it’ll be during a time she wants to nap or not (trying my best to follow her cues). I like the idea of and curious about storytime at my local library but I don’t know what to expect — I read books to her at home but what does storytime look like for a 4 month old in a group setting? First time mom and new to all of this so please pardon if it sounds silly of a question or obvious.
My baby is pretty content in the car starting out, but if something does take too long due to traffic, she does get impatient/fussy/crying and I feel extra pressure to get home as soon as possible (and as safely as possible).
Any advice on going out to lessen my own anxiety? What has your experience been like in going out with your baby, especially at 4 months?
AITA for being upset? Best friend using my baby name (please read before voting)
I want to preface this with saying that I don’t believe anyone owns a name and that I hope people don’t read this and think that I feel entitled. Because I don’t. I’m just sad and upset.
So, my best friend and I met like 10 years ago because we were both doing IVF at the same clinic at the same time and lived a half hours drive away from each other (despite the clinic being a 2 hour drive away). IVF didn’t work for either of us.
Since then she has decided she no longer wants to have children (long story to do with her toxic partner) and I have had a child.
Recently we found out I was pregnant again and I told my friend and we talked about names etc as my partner and I were set on names this time around. I told my best friend our names (one picked for boy and one for girl). She loved them. I know people will say you shouldn’t share but I’ve always shared with her and it’s always been fine. She was my biggest cheerleader with each pregnancy.
My pregnancy then ended in miscarriage and I was devastated, as you can imagine.
My best friend bought a puppy 2 weeks after our miscarriage and named her the girls name that we were set on using.
I didn’t say much when she told me, just that I guess we can’t use that name anymore. But I am upset by it. Sure, we may have had a boy and not been able to use it any way. But I think, it’s the timing that stings the most.
Best friend think I’m being an A hole and has put a dark cloud over her happy time with her new puppy.
So, AITA?
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