Need advice

We’re thinking about taking our first family vacation with our 2 year old

in our community

Pronouns

I became friends with a mum on here I have 2 daughters 5 and 3. And her children who were born female 5 and 3 as well. We met up everything was good , something happened on the playground and my daughter came to report to us saying “she hit me” the mother said my child isn’t a she , my child is a they , you shouldn’t assign your child a pronoun before they can decide. She was quite annoyed and angry when she said that.
I was shocked because I’ve never met someone who has new pronouns. I let it go my daughter came back and reported the same thing and the mother says the same thing and began teaching my daughter about pronouns and that my daughter can basically decide whether she’s a “they them etc and said all the pronouns available” I decided to end the friendship because l don’t want my children to learn that kind of thing just yet and I’m not really into that per say.
What would you do was l wrong

My mom is not as present as I thought she would be

Just wanted to come on here and vent a little bit. I’m a FTM and my mom absolutely loves children. She always wanted to be a grandma but said she never wanted to pressure me into having kids if I didn’t want any.

I’m so grateful for my little one. He has filled a hole in my heart I didn’t know even existed. I’m also very lucky to have a husband who is very hands on and we split taking care of him as fairly as possible. I’m out on maternity leave and my husband is back at work so majority of the caretaking is on me right now.
This is not a complaint that I don’t have a good support system in my house.

It’s just my mom doesn’t help as much as she says she wants to. She says she will come and help me clean or take care of baby but when she’s here she just wants to carry the baby and nothing else. She won’t feed him, burp him, change his diaper. Nothing other than hold him. I asked her to change his diaper for me and she said no she doesn’t do diapers. Im guessing she thinks this is doing me a favor just holding him so I can get stuff done around the house but not really when I still have to take care of him and when I do take care of him she’s criticizing me for something. Sometimes I lash out at her because I get frustrated but for me it’s like why are commenting if you don’t even do anything yourself?? I’m starting to think she just likes the idea of being a grandma?

I have a doctor appointment and she’s the only person I can ask for watch baby for an hour and I’m nervous. I know it’s only an hour but she refuses to even learn how to heat up a bottle so I’m like am I coming home to chaos??

Vent over if you made it this far thanks for reading

Husband divorcing me today

Filing papers to divorce me today for his birthday.

He always liked to ruin every holiday. He has never had any sympathy for me. I am just a baby making vessel to him.

He stole all my ideas and got my dream job and now he is abandoning me and our son.

It hurts so bad.

Circumcision

Please no negativity just looking for advice.

My partner would like our son to be circumcised due to religious reasons (hes muslim). I have googled it and it says it doesnt need to be done to be muslim. I have agreed to the children eating halal food, no pork and him wanting them to be muslim but i just dont want to do this. I dont want to see and hear him upset when it done and i also dont want to be the one changing nappies and seeing him sore or anything afterwards. My partner will barely be here and wont change the nappies so i just dont feel like its fair at all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am not muslim but i feel like he’s not meeting me halfway at all

SAHMs, how much help do you get from your husband?

I don’t have any family or friends here, so it’s just me, my 19-month-old, and my husband. I’m a SAHM. He works in the office 2 days a week, and the rest of the time he works from home. Most days he also plays games while he’s working. They’re always chatting on Discord too, so even on his lunch break, instead of helping around the house, he’s gaming or texting.

Today I took our toddler out for almost the whole day. When we got home, the kitchen was a mess, the house was a mess, and there was no food ready for the baby, so I had to cook after we got back. Am I wrong for expecting him to help with things like that?

I do all the deep cleaning and most of the cooking. He does clean sometimes, but it’s never a proper deep clean. During the day, he usually takes her out for about an hour so I can have a break.

Our baby goes to bed at 7 pm, so after that we’re both free. He usually just gets on his games, while I’m still thinking about everything that needs doing. I’m getting really annoyed because if I don’t ask him to do something, he just won’t do it.

Crying

I don’t know how to describe my situation. I am a stay home mom with a 6 year old boy and a 7 weeks old girl. Living here in abroad with mother and father in law, brother in law and his wife and their child in the same household. No family from my side . Everyday cooking. Have to please everyone.Husband doesn’t understand me. He doesn’t want to listen. He works from home. Only at night he comes to my room.
Nobody to talk with physically. My day starts listening everybody is working, you the only one staying home. I am not giving any time to my son . Newborn doesn’t sleep. Maximum days I think why I am alive.