Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

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I don’t know how to describe my situation. I am a stay home mom with a 6 year old boy and a 7 weeks old girl. Living here in abroad with mother and father in law, brother in law and his wife and their child in the same household. No family from my side . Everyday cooking. Have to please everyone.Husband doesn’t understand me. He doesn’t want to listen. He works from home. Only at night he comes to my room.
Nobody to talk with physically. My day starts listening everybody is working, you the only one staying home. I am not giving any time to my son . Newborn doesn’t sleep. Maximum days I think why I am alive.

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Think you need to get out of this situation asap

Please tell your GP, you deserve help x

I cry cause my husband is a d1ck a lottt

Omo, see enh. Manage for now. Once your baby is old enough, find your way out. Do you have papers? If you have papers you can leave and find government assistance. It will be hard at first, but you’re currency situation sounds hard, so choose your hard. Upon leaving you need to find a way to work, go to school and take care of 2 kids. Maybe you will even find a community of others from your country that can help in some way.

What state are you in?

And you are definitely experiencing postpartum depression. Just pls don’t harm yourself. Those kids need you and your life is worth more than this stage. There’s still so much life ahead of you enh! DM me if you need 🫂.

What country are you in? If its UK then there are places that can help you.

Why do you have to cook everyday. Can the responsibility not be shared? Are you cooking for everyone in the house? If that is the case and your being treated as some mule, I would defo seek support from organisation local to you.

Why does no one speak with you in the household?

No, it's not possible. You have to keep letting your husband know that you can't stay in this situation. Besides, you just gave birth to his baby; he should understand. You have to give him... An ultimatum because you can't stay in this situation.

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Pre school nursery.

My daughter is 15 months old and she is due to start nursery for two mornings a week soon, however I am extremely apprehensive about it! I hate the thought of her getting poorly and I hate the thought of essentially strangers looking after her. Does anybody think it’s actually really important that she goes? We don’t need her to go from a child care point of view and developmentally she isn’t behind at all so I’m contemplating not sending her but I was hoping for some advice and some thoughts! TIA x

Stay at home mama

Hey! I recently became a stay at home mom. My husband encouraged it and I thought while she is young this would be prime time to do it.

Here’s things I’m struggling with and need advice or suggestions on how to over come them

- finding time for myself
- not making my own money (I’ve never had to depend on anyone for money)
- cleaning routine (we used to have a cleaning lady once a month) I feel I could do this but it’s hard with a crawler on my hands —or am I making excuses
- I’m still pumping 4 times a day (I’m ok with this I just feel I am still scheduling my day around pumps)
- I recently told my husband I would like to go to a workout class on Tuesdays and told him I wouldn’t go every Tuesday and he said have fun and suggested I’d be taking baby to (this was for me to have me time) I told him I wouldn’t be taking baby

Thoughts suggestions
Please be nice as I’m newly negativing this

Pronouns

I became friends with a mum on here I have 2 daughters 5 and 3. And her children who were born female 5 and 3 as well. We met up everything was good , something happened on the playground and my daughter came to report to us saying “she hit me” the mother said my child isn’t a she , my child is a they , you shouldn’t assign your child a pronoun before they can decide. She was quite annoyed and angry when she said that.
I was shocked because I’ve never met someone who has new pronouns. I let it go my daughter came back and reported the same thing and the mother says the same thing and began teaching my daughter about pronouns and that my daughter can basically decide whether she’s a “they them etc and said all the pronouns available” I decided to end the friendship because l don’t want my children to learn that kind of thing just yet and I’m not really into that per say.
What would you do was l wrong

Would you let your child miss the last half day of school ( uk
Mums).

He’s in year one. I am stuck as there’s no breakfast club or after school clubs as it’s the last day

Have you done this before

Daycare just venting

My babys 2.5 and shes been going to daycare since late May. At first she only cried for me but she started liking it a lot then she randomly started hating it and then she got sick and was out for a week. Now last week she was back and she hates it. She cries bad the entire day, I thought it was because of another new baby who cries a lot. But its to the point where she will see me pack her blanket or we get up early in the morning and she starts freaking out and screaming horribly. She will even randomly think about it and start crying. I dont know what to do anymore

Husband divorcing me today

Filing papers to divorce me today for his birthday.

He always liked to ruin every holiday. He has never had any sympathy for me. I am just a baby making vessel to him.

He stole all my ideas and got my dream job and now he is abandoning me and our son.

It hurts so bad.