How would you feel about this rejection

We’re out of town, came across an AMAZING bargain deal of someone rehoming a reptile in this vacation area that I’ve wanted FOR EVER and I’m head over heels at the opportunity and seriously cheap price. Everything included, just have to pick up at a later time tomorrow evening. Husband saw our texts before I even did and he shut it down without any info, didn’t change his mind on it no matter what I explained. He knows I’ve wanted this for so many years and that I’m an avid collector of this animal in statues and trinkets etc. Devastated he won’t change his mind just because he “doesn’t want it” even though he wouldn’t have to do anything for upkeep, just let me buy food and occasionally product. I feel like out of our current spending habits it’s not too much to ask since he buys new shoes and things for his motorcycle very often. I’m conflicted how upset I should be about this cause I know he’s actively stamping out my happiness with this purchase. Yeah, I can see that it’s unnecessary but isn’t that life? Can’t I enjoy it? 😞

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Was this a reasonable reaction ?

I have the most lovely mother in law and we’ve always had positive experiences with one another. The other day I went over to her house around 8pm and I wanted to put LO to bed while we watched the football match. While I was doing this I was struggling abit my methods wasn’t working and I guess the different environment and chatter wasn’t helping her fall asleep. My mother in law kept repeating “she’s not tired she doesn’t wanna sleep” not in a bad way but it made me feel quite overwhelmed bc I knew what my baby needed and yes she was tired just couldn’t get to sleep. BEFORE this she was also making comments about my LO being hot and uncomfortable and I should change her out of her dress into something comfy (which I had already known and was in the process of doing)

The combination of repeatedly being told what to do and my baby being fussy was getting to me a little so I was getting very frustrated but out of respect I said nothing to her. My husband walked in and she immediately started telling him “the baby doesn’t want to sleep “. This pissed me off a lot and my husband couldn’t pick up on it until I discreetly told him to come outside and I explained my frustration and thankfully he understood so well (considering it was the first negative interaction I’ve had with his mum) and afterwards told his mum I’ve got it and to just let me be which I respected so much.

I’m wondering if I overreacted ?

On a scale of 1-10, how pissed would you be? Would you say something, and if so, what issues would you want to chat about

For the record, my husband is pretty hands on and a good dad. I work from home with our 11m old. I get 1.5hrs to go to the gym once a week during her and our toddler’s awake hours. Otherwise I go while they are sleeping.

Well, I get back from the gym today. My husband said “oh I accidentally put our 11m old down an hour early at 8:30a so I woke her after 5m”. Ffs she has had a 9:30a nap since she was 5 weeks old. I always leave her sleep sack on her change table. Instead, he has thrown a whole washing basket of CLEAN clothes across the laundry searching for her other one. Next, he broke the diaper bin (again) taking out the dirty bag so I had to fix it. Fast forward to this afternoon. I’m throwing the ball for our dog outside with our toddler. She goes inside to where my husband is with our 11m. I’m watching them through the door. Toddler appears to be hugging 11m old who then starts screaming. My toddler has bit her naked back right in front of husband. I’m fucking over it. Like, can I even leave them to go to the gym or outside alone?!!!

Wait..I'm not alone ?!

Are we all dealing with the same nonsense?! Why aren't people talking about how common this is?! I honestly thought I was alone and everyone else was just lucky to have him help. LOL these men folk I swear 😭😭😭
My situation is crazy like I can't believe it's real life.... This guy turned me into a FT SAHM...he goes to work (thankful, don't get me wrong) to a job I got him into........and then decides to go out after work EVERY NIGHT...while I'm home 24/7 with our kids. Losing. My. Mind.
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How to get husband more involved in politics

We live in the US we live in a very red Maga state but I am a democrat. My husband likes to say he’s a republican, but he agrees with me on every point I bring up.😂 I think he just doesn’t care enough to become an enemy of his parents (we love his parents. They’re just very anti-liberal.) lmao
how do I get him more involved into politics and get him to care about the things I care about without talking to him about them? I don’t wanna be crazy about politics all the time and bringing up stuff all the time I want him to bring it up to me.

Also, no hate to any one’s views!! I believe everyone can get along unless you’re MAGA!

Exhausted

I am so exhausted from constantly being told by my partner that im lazy, I dont do enough, that I dont appreciate him enough blah blah blah. I am the one who has looked after our baby boy from the day he was born doing everything. I did everything during his nicu stay with no help or support from my partner. We were in nicu for a month and I can probably count on one hand how many times he came and saw our son in nicu. I am the one who does everything for our son, does all the night feeds, bath, keeping him entertained etc etc. Yet im apparently lazy because some days i can't even empty the bin as baby boy wont let me have a second. Im lazy because im exhausted after being up all hours looking after our son. Im lazy because ive gained weight and im currently not prioritising loosing it right now, oh and I also have a auto immune disease which does help with my weight either. But anyway... all I get is negative things from him

Advice

Me and my partner has recently had a baby. (11 wks)
I recently had the gut feeling to go through his phone. I downloaded his Snapchat and messenger data and seen he’s been chatting to about 15 other girls. Even going to the length of sending photos and calling them. I have obviously brought this up to him and we had a discussion about things and we want to move forward and try and make things better.
But for me, I am so angry that he’d stoop so low and do something like this in the weeks before and after his child was born. How do I get over this? I’m now constantly snapping and it’s leading us to bicker everyday and it’s not healthy on me him or the child.

Im recently finding out about more chats that have happened during that time and I just feel I’m finding out more and more everyday. I would just call it quits but I also feel I haven’t given it enough chance, how do I learn how to re-trust again or how do we build the trust again? Especially now my mother instincts are telling that me and his child aren’t his priority and that I need to prepare for life without him and just me and his child.
Please just give me some advice, am I being to harsh? How can I stop the intrusive thoughts?