Toddlers on social media

I see these videos of toddlers on instagram everywhere, this one is 2.5 years old, and she was getting dressed by herself, pressing those light up buttons to show she did the task, eating breakfast with a knife and fork, washing her hands and brushing her teeth independently. I know social media is supposed to look good but how normal is this? My 2 year old does none of those things. I don’t want to compare because they’re still so little but at the same time, am I out of touch with how much she could be doing?

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Was this a reasonable reaction ?

I have the most lovely mother in law and we’ve always had positive experiences with one another. The other day I went over to her house around 8pm and I wanted to put LO to bed while we watched the football match. While I was doing this I was struggling abit my methods wasn’t working and I guess the different environment and chatter wasn’t helping her fall asleep. My mother in law kept repeating “she’s not tired she doesn’t wanna sleep” not in a bad way but it made me feel quite overwhelmed bc I knew what my baby needed and yes she was tired just couldn’t get to sleep. BEFORE this she was also making comments about my LO being hot and uncomfortable and I should change her out of her dress into something comfy (which I had already known and was in the process of doing)

The combination of repeatedly being told what to do and my baby being fussy was getting to me a little so I was getting very frustrated but out of respect I said nothing to her. My husband walked in and she immediately started telling him “the baby doesn’t want to sleep “. This pissed me off a lot and my husband couldn’t pick up on it until I discreetly told him to come outside and I explained my frustration and thankfully he understood so well (considering it was the first negative interaction I’ve had with his mum) and afterwards told his mum I’ve got it and to just let me be which I respected so much.

I’m wondering if I overreacted ?

On a scale of 1-10, how pissed would you be? Would you say something, and if so, what issues would you want to chat about

For the record, my husband is pretty hands on and a good dad. I work from home with our 11m old. I get 1.5hrs to go to the gym once a week during her and our toddler’s awake hours. Otherwise I go while they are sleeping.

Well, I get back from the gym today. My husband said “oh I accidentally put our 11m old down an hour early at 8:30a so I woke her after 5m”. Ffs she has had a 9:30a nap since she was 5 weeks old. I always leave her sleep sack on her change table. Instead, he has thrown a whole washing basket of CLEAN clothes across the laundry searching for her other one. Next, he broke the diaper bin (again) taking out the dirty bag so I had to fix it. Fast forward to this afternoon. I’m throwing the ball for our dog outside with our toddler. She goes inside to where my husband is with our 11m. I’m watching them through the door. Toddler appears to be hugging 11m old who then starts screaming. My toddler has bit her naked back right in front of husband. I’m fucking over it. Like, can I even leave them to go to the gym or outside alone?!!!

Wait..I'm not alone ?!

Are we all dealing with the same nonsense?! Why aren't people talking about how common this is?! I honestly thought I was alone and everyone else was just lucky to have him help. LOL these men folk I swear 😭😭😭
My situation is crazy like I can't believe it's real life.... This guy turned me into a FT SAHM...he goes to work (thankful, don't get me wrong) to a job I got him into........and then decides to go out after work EVERY NIGHT...while I'm home 24/7 with our kids. Losing. My. Mind.
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How to get husband more involved in politics

We live in the US we live in a very red Maga state but I am a democrat. My husband likes to say he’s a republican, but he agrees with me on every point I bring up.😂 I think he just doesn’t care enough to become an enemy of his parents (we love his parents. They’re just very anti-liberal.) lmao
how do I get him more involved into politics and get him to care about the things I care about without talking to him about them? I don’t wanna be crazy about politics all the time and bringing up stuff all the time I want him to bring it up to me.

Also, no hate to any one’s views!! I believe everyone can get along unless you’re MAGA!

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My son is 2 in September, I bought 2 potties since he just turned 1 to get him used to seeing it and sitting. He will sit on it with a nappy on but when he doesn’t have one on will literally stay clear from it, and he knows we have wee wee’s and poo poo’s on the potty, but a couple times now he will sit on potty then stand up and wee on the floor. He tells me when he has done a wee or poo after, which I know is good but never before. I’m guessing the time will come when he wants, he starts nursery in January 2027 so he will be 2 and half by then, I’m guessing I will re introduce it again soon after he turns two or something. Any advice if your little is/ was the same kinda, thanks? X