What the hell?

Soo my baby daddy and i were only dating for 3 months before I got pregnant... we said we loved each other and we would try to be a family together...
Im now 36 weeks pregnant and hes just moved in with me... but we havent had sex in months... it rarely happens, im not really an initiator and tbh theres been some moments where he has presented very immaturely and it gives me the ick... also whenever we do have sex... i never orgasm and he doesn't seem to even care about it. He hasnt gone down on me for more than a minute at a time and i can count on one hand the amount of times its happened in the past 11 months... the sex is just shockingly shit...

I feel awful but i end up missing my ex as we had a great sex life... and now my baby daddy is living with me i thought the sex might pick up... but no, anydowntime we might get together where it could happen, he goes on his phone and plays games....

I feel so ignored and so underappreciated... hes already told me he finds me less desirable since being pregnant... we care about each other and have a nice emotional connection but the connection is not sustaining either or us and weve both admitted were unhappy but he doesnt want to talk about it or seemingly do anything to change it...
Ive had a difficult pregnancy living on my own most the time, trying ro renovate my little home... my dog passed away in april and then my brother died by suicide a month ago....
So its been awfuk and tbf mt partner has really tried to be there to support me emotionally...
But i get no physical suppory or care such as affection/massage or any intimate touch... its just pecks and hugs here and there but it just feels empty...

What the hell should i do? I dont feel its enough anf when i try and bring it up he just shuts down or avoids... he doesnt seem to want to make me feel any better...

I have been doubting whether hes actually honest with himself or me about his feelings... i just dont feel hes that interested in me

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I'm really sorry you feel this way.
Sex is not the most important part of the relationship, but it does matter a lot.
I don't really have any advice, but keep trying to talk about it.

I wasn't a super sexual person, and maybe it was because my few intimate relationships before my husband were VERY BAD, and I thought sex was like that
When I met my husband, he tried so bad to "teach me," and I was very hurt by his intentions, I thought I wasn't enough, and he was comparing me with his past relationships, took months for me to be able to talk about it.
It's been 10 years since we first started dating, and we had amazing times in our sex life. After my little girl, not so much, to be honest, but recently, we just clicked again, and we are like teenagers, enjoying ourselves in the intimacy of our bedroom.
I know it was very hard for him to do everything, exhausting the first year for sure, but once I took down my shield and listened. Our sex life really changed.
I really hope you can find your own way with him

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