I'm so stressed. / VENTING!!

I have a baby that I take care of all by myself. I do have a partner, but at times all he will mainly do is just watch her. I'm the only one who actually you know takes care of her and sometimes it gets to me. And I have talked to him about it like a couple times, I'm like I need help. We both need to do things but in the end it ends with me taking care of her by myself like usual at this point I just accepted it it doesn't matter anymore but I'm just like to the point where I'm just done. Sometimes I just feel like crying, and I don't drink but I want to just drink. I just want to freaking like I don't know feel better but right now I'm just upset and stressed. I want to go outside and do things but I don't have my driver's license or permit because I'm lazy and can't do anything so I rely on my partner for that a lot. My baby is on oxygen and that is one of my main stressers. I feel like I'm not able to help her in that way like I just want someone to do it for me basically I want her off oxygen I want to be able to you know just not worry about it but I do all the time and I hate it. She spits up all the time to the point she can't breathe and that scares me so bad that I want to put her back in the NICU. because I'm scared. But I also just want her with me at all times too, so I feel bad for thinking that way. I'm struggling right now and I don't know how to get help.

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Please be honest with me ..

My daughter was crying in car the whole drive home. My husband tells her to shut up and I tell him not to say that to her. He then goes on basically saying I’m a bad mom because I don’t let him parent because I told him not to tell her to shut up. (4years old) he says if he was the one staying at home (SAHM)she would be acting that way (crying all the way home) am I a bad parent who doesn’t let him parent because i tell him not to tell her to shut up? He then tries to justify it by saying growing up his parents told him to shut the F up and hit him and tells me I don’t know how your parents raised you etc .. continues to tell me do your duty teach them good values, etc..does this whole situation raise a question that I’m a bad mom? And am I just being sensitive because I didn’t like how he told her to shut up?

Urine sample

The gp has asked for me to get a urine sample from my 7 month old girl!
Please any tips and tricks as sitting with a pot infront of her with no nappy and waiting might send me round the bend 😂

Getting out with baby

As a first time mum, im struggling to get out the house as I dont want baby to cry. I keep seeing people out shopping or coffee dates etc but the most weve managed are walks in the park close to home. It feels so difficult getting out when baby is either unsettled or constantly needing changed or fed. Sometimes baby falls asleep on a walk but more times lately he just wails and i nothing can console him so we rush home. Baby is 7 weeks and I just dont know how we get there?

He so cute playground at the playground

Yesterday had so much fun yesterday

'Helpful' advice

I was pushing my 11 week old to collect my daughter from nursery, the whole time he was screaming his head off (he doesn't love the pram) and fighting sleep. A woman shouts after me in the high street saying 'get that poor baby in a carrier'. I have a carrier but it was 27 degrees and we were both already warm!!! Not sure why I'm posting this, it just upset me tbh. I cried when I got home and told my husband 🤣😅

Should I stay or should I go?

I’m half way in and half way out of my marriage at this point. I do not feel like I have a genuine partner. He gets defensive over things so easily, can never take accountability, and has issues with my family. The drama is endless with him. He was previously arrested (all charges dropped and erased from his record), he attempted to fight my father, he’s a full blown alcoholic but refuses to get help, the list goes on. I would love to leave but i’m terrified of being forced to share custody of our two small children. We have a 3-year-old daughter and 3-month-old son. My husband works a ton of hours to the point I sometimes go days without seeing him, sometimes even a full week. His schedule is all over the place but he makes very good money so I handle home life. If I do leave…what are the odds of him getting any custody if there’s proof of his drinking including while driving? I worry about their safety, and me staying at least guarantees they’re safe cause i’m always present. Help. I’m in NJ if that helps at all. Also ask any questions, i’ll give further info just didn’t want this to be super long.