Anyone else feel the same way?

Hi mamas ! I’m 8 months pp and have a beautiful baby girl but ever since having her I’ve had the biggest identity shift and almost don’t know who I am. I looked up and ppd can make you experience derealozation/depersonalization which I feel as though I have. I also have ppa and hate being alone. Will this ever go away?? I just want to feel normal again :(

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It will go away by the time passes. I was there too you’re gonna feel better soon don’t worry just be aware of your feelings and know that it’s totally normal and we totally understand you

this happened to me with my first i had ppd and ppa so bad i was medicated it took a while before i started feeling normal but it did get better made time for myself WITHOUT babies even if it was just doing my makeup and not going anywhere or eating my food FULLY out of sight and used a camera to watch them

Yes, also go for walks and do something that you enjoy. I wish I could give you hugs

Sending you so much love, mama - becoming a mom is a complete
Identity shift. Your brain chemistry has LITERALLY altered. Try to give yourself lots of compassion as you get to know yourself again. It can take time but you will see the light and thrive again just continue to surround yourself with people who love you & if this suits you, turn to God ❤️ big hugs your way

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Single Now!

I am 2 weeks postpartum and the father of my child decided to break up with me because ‘’ we argue too much and he hasn’t been feeling the relationship since I got pregnant ‘’ mind you this was after he decided to go out drinking on Sunday with his friend and his friend’s girlfriend. He came home from work for 2-3 hours then went out and never called me till after 1am to say he was coming home, so I told him not to. He also went out drinking with this same friend when I was 1 day pp and still in the hospital to ‘’ celebrate ‘’ the birth of our daughter. He is still here helping out and ‘’ trying to make sure I’m okay but I’m stuck between not wanting to be around or talk to him and wanting to do the right thing by letting him be around his daughter. I’m not ready to have my daughter away from me yet and I don’t 100% trust him to take care of her by himself. Some of the things we argue about is him supporting her head and leaving her at the edge of the bed, etc. He feels like I’m just trynna boss him around. He’s a great person but not a great boyfriend in some aspects which is making this rlly hard.

Do you use condoms with your spouse?

I heard that couples don’t use condoms…

Even if they are not conceiving and they don’t want kids, they still don’t use condom…

So I was just curious

I thought only people that hook up with strangers use condoms

Self care

Anyone else wanting to go get everything done? I’m talking like facial, massage, nails, hair. I’m a first time mom and I’m slowing disintegrating. My back and body hurts, my face is flaking and breaking out, I can’t stop chewing my nails

Pregnacare

Hi yall! I’m 20 weeks and I’m still taking my Pregnacare , is that still okay to take or should I move into something different? First time mumma here and I want to do what is best!

Maybe Deleting the app

I had this app since 2022 and tbh is not the best app or people disappear or they cant hold a conversation i try making groups and does not work i had to delete them i been wanting to make more pregnant friends and nothing so maybe il delete it or have the app just to post pics sometimes . Idk why is so difficult to find friends!!!!

Trying to figure out what’s best for our little family ❤️

Stay at home mums in the UK , how long have you been at home for, and how is it going?

Have you started a business or side hustle alongside being a SAHM, or are you currently relying on your partner’s income?

I’m currently 4 months postpartum and I’d really love to stay at home with my baby. I’ve been thinking about starting a small business on the side so I still have something for myself and feel like I’m building something too.

I’d love to hear your experiences … how has being a stay at home mum been for you? Do you ever regret the decision, or has it been everything you hoped for?

There’s just so much going through my mind at the moment, so I’d really appreciate hearing your honest experiences xx