Trying to figure out what’s best for our little family ❤️

Stay at home mums in the UK , how long have you been at home for, and how is it going?

Have you started a business or side hustle alongside being a SAHM, or are you currently relying on your partner’s income?

I’m currently 4 months postpartum and I’d really love to stay at home with my baby. I’ve been thinking about starting a small business on the side so I still have something for myself and feel like I’m building something too.

I’d love to hear your experiences … how has being a stay at home mum been for you? Do you ever regret the decision, or has it been everything you hoped for?

There’s just so much going through my mind at the moment, so I’d really appreciate hearing your honest experiences xx

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Intimacy after having baby

Hi everyone, I had my baby in January via emergency c section and obviously wasn’t planning on having sex with my partner for a while after, but we are 6 months in now and we still haven’t. I still just have such low sex drive. I am breastfeeding, and I know this can play part in this, but I’m also just so uncomfortable in my body and touched out that I don’t want anyone to touch me at all. There have been occasions where I have wanted to, but baby is co-sleeping with me for survival, so I don’t really know how we would do anything 🥲 My partner is absolutely wonderful and not pressuring me at all, and assures me he doesn’t mind and everything is at my pace, but we were rarely intimate while I was pregnant due to my pelvic pain and I feel really guilty, even though he doesn’t want me to. We talk about it all the time, so we are on the same page and there’s no resentment or anything like that, just more me wanting to WANT to, if that makes sense.

Has anyone experienced this before or is there any advice anyone could give me?

Husband being weird

So I’m 8 months postpartum and I’m starting to feel more like myself and like I can do things outside of trying to survive with my baby. I will admit that I had some pretty difficult time getting back into sex with my husband, especially because I’m the sole one taking care of the baby (my first, never have even babysat), but I have been having sex more often, even if I’m not 100% in the mood for it. My husband has been complaining and moaning about how I’m not doing it as much as I used to, and that I should be doing it all the time and can take a break for a moment from the baby. Yes, he has acknowledged that I’ve been making an effort to do it more, but he’s also still complaining. Tonight, when I got back from visiting with my baby at my mom’s, he’s been super weird with me. I asked for a hug and he said “yeah, do whatever you need to do” but when I asked if he didn’t want one or if he wanted to give me a kiss, he was like “I’m just not in the mood.” But it’s almost in like a petty tone, not actually sounding drained or like he needs some alone time (which I get). He’s chatting with me and being around me otherwise, just won’t be affectionate. I honestly don’t mind if that’s really how he feels tonight, but it came out of nowhere and I feel like he’s doing it to be petty because I didn’t have sex yesterday or today (he got home later and I had to do stuff for the baby yesterday, and I was visiting with my mom tonight and had to get the baby to bed earlier because she refused a nap). Am I overthinking this?

Baby daddy

My baby daddy called me today telling me he doesn’t want to try to work things out with me for the sake of the baby (I’m 34 weeks pregnant) and he said he won’t do the paternity test we’ve been talking about after he’s tortured me my whole pregnancy saying his child “isn’t his” after HE CHEATED ON ME, and he said he won’t even drive over here to meet his son in person or come to the hospital. My whole pregnancy he’d claim he wants me and the next day it’d be something different. Do you think he will come back once baby’s born?

advice

so i’ve been with my partner for 5 years now. i got pregnant when we had been together for 3 years and we were on the verge of breaking up because he prioritised living his life and being with his friends. when i found out i was pregnant it was rough. he would constantly change his mind and say he wanted me to keep it then say he didn’t want to be a dad. it was on and off like that for months. at around 3/4 months pregnant we came to the conclusion that we would keep it and it was all fine. a week later he then said he wasn’t ready to be a dad so i told him this was unfair and manipulative since he was holding my belly and talking to it so i told him ill get an abortion but i cannot stay with him. it was a bit argument but we eventually kept the pregnancy (obviously).

time passed and he eventually became really good by helping me eat and shower and shave. he was amazing leading up to birth. i then gave birth to my beautiful boy last march and that’s where it all went downhill. he wanted his mum to come into the birthing room before i had even gotten up and cleaned myself up. i obviously said absolutely not and that caused some issues. i moved back in with my mum so she could help out with everything as i was only 19 at the time. i had strict rules of no one coming round without asking and they can’t stay past 6pm. it was okay to begin with but then my partners mum would come round whenever and stay until 9pm!!! around this time my partner was also going out and meeting his friends all the time and not helping out without son. i told him i couldn’t live like this and if he didn’t change i would leave him. we went on a break for about a week and he sorted himself out and it was great.

these past couple of months has been horrible. he has completely stopped prioritising me and my son. he doesn’t know our sons routine. he’s always with his friends and his opening hanging out with people who have a problem with me. none of his money goes on us (apart from the few occasions where i ask him if i have no money whatsoever). i told him that im not happy in our relationship anymore and if he doesn’t change whats more important to him he will lose us. we are now on another break as of yesterday and i don’t know what to do.

i love him dearly and have obviously been with him for a long time but i just am not happy in the relationship and i dont want our son to grow up with parents that are together just because we’ve been together for so long. i want to believe that he’ll change his ways but this has been a running problem throughout our relationship.

PLEASE HELP ME 🙏🏻

Maternity allowance

Has anyone had to fill out for maternity allowance? What do I need to do for it I’m abit clueless with it and I feel like I may of left it too late to sort out.

Pregnacare

Hi yall! I’m 20 weeks and I’m still taking my Pregnacare , is that still okay to take or should I move into something different? First time mumma here and I want to do what is best!