Intimacy after having baby
Hi everyone, I had my baby in January via emergency c section and obviously wasn’t planning on having sex with my partner for a while after, but we are 6 months in now and we still haven’t. I still just have such low sex drive. I am breastfeeding, and I know this can play part in this, but I’m also just so uncomfortable in my body and touched out that I don’t want anyone to touch me at all. There have been occasions where I have wanted to, but baby is co-sleeping with me for survival, so I don’t really know how we would do anything 🥲 My partner is absolutely wonderful and not pressuring me at all, and assures me he doesn’t mind and everything is at my pace, but we were rarely intimate while I was pregnant due to my pelvic pain and I feel really guilty, even though he doesn’t want me to. We talk about it all the time, so we are on the same page and there’s no resentment or anything like that, just more me wanting to WANT to, if that makes sense.
Has anyone experienced this before or is there any advice anyone could give me?
Husband being weird
So I’m 8 months postpartum and I’m starting to feel more like myself and like I can do things outside of trying to survive with my baby. I will admit that I had some pretty difficult time getting back into sex with my husband, especially because I’m the sole one taking care of the baby (my first, never have even babysat), but I have been having sex more often, even if I’m not 100% in the mood for it. My husband has been complaining and moaning about how I’m not doing it as much as I used to, and that I should be doing it all the time and can take a break for a moment from the baby. Yes, he has acknowledged that I’ve been making an effort to do it more, but he’s also still complaining. Tonight, when I got back from visiting with my baby at my mom’s, he’s been super weird with me. I asked for a hug and he said “yeah, do whatever you need to do” but when I asked if he didn’t want one or if he wanted to give me a kiss, he was like “I’m just not in the mood.” But it’s almost in like a petty tone, not actually sounding drained or like he needs some alone time (which I get). He’s chatting with me and being around me otherwise, just won’t be affectionate. I honestly don’t mind if that’s really how he feels tonight, but it came out of nowhere and I feel like he’s doing it to be petty because I didn’t have sex yesterday or today (he got home later and I had to do stuff for the baby yesterday, and I was visiting with my mom tonight and had to get the baby to bed earlier because she refused a nap). Am I overthinking this?
